Alex_M Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I asked a girl out, who I barely know, on Tuesday if she wanted to go out on the Wednesday. She said it was too short notice but didn't suggest an alternative. Is it just a rubbish excuse or worth asking again?
bac Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I asked a girl out, who I barely know, on Tuesday if she wanted to go out on the Wednesday. She said it was too short notice but didn't suggest an alternative. Is it just a rubbish excuse or worth asking again? First, ask her how many days are the right notice. Then, ask her out using the info.
Art_Critic Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Normally I always asked a girl out on Tuesday or Wednesday if we were going to go out the coming weekend... People need more than 24 hours to arrange a date unless they are already dating.. and even then you still have to give them the consideration of time when asking for their time. She isn't interested is my impression since she didn't offer an alternative.
bac Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 She isn't interested is my impression since she didn't offer an alternative. You can not know that because women want/expect a man to chase.
Art_Critic Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 You can not know that because women want/expect a man to chase. They don't expect a man to chase when he eff'd up asking out for the first time.. They next people that do that... Then have the OP ask again.. he will still get shut out but I guess there is always a 10% chance he won't.
porter218 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 No matter how interested I may be I need at a couple days notice. Even if I didn't have kids that would still be the case because I have lots I have to do everyday. The only time I went on a last minute date was when I happened to be waiting on another guy to tell me if he would be free then got a call inviting me out by someone else. Does she have kids or a busy work schedule? Sometimes people just need downtime too....I've noticed thats hard for some men to understand.
Mad Max Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 2 things: 1)You have to give more than 24 hours notice 2)If she didn't suggest another time and place, move on
sanskrit Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 (edited) A woman who will call you out for "too short notice" probably would have told you straight up if she had 0 interest, so there's a possibility she actually would like to go out with you or has considered it favorably, but has boundaries about advance notice 50/50 just not interested/honest. Would give her another go. In fact would go ahead and ask her out for New Year's Eve, if she has a sense of humor, she will laugh. If not, meh. Edited September 27, 2010 by sanskrit
GooseChaser Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 A woman who will call you out for "too short notice" probably would have told you straight up if she had 0 interest, so there's a possibility she actually would like to go out with you or has considered it favorably, but has boundaries about advance notice 50/50 just not interested/honest. Would give her another go. In fact would go ahead and ask her out for New Year's Eve, if she has a sense of humor, she will laugh. If not, meh. To add to that, asking her out for a date on a date that was so far ahead, like New Year's Eve, shows that you are confident and expect the two of you to still be together at that date. It's a good thing.
porter218 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 In fact would go ahead and ask her out for New Year's Eve, if she has a sense of humor, she will laugh. If not, meh. ' Hey, this is Alex. So....well sorry for the short notice the other day. I was calling you for a redo here. How's New Yrs Eve for ya? I know that may a bit short notice an all but I could pick you up at 8:15pm. If that isn't good how about next Saturday?' hahaha
that girl Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Normally, if someone is really interested they will suggest an alternative date. But sometimes people don't think of it or are thrown off their game. If you really like her, wait a week and ask again. After that, I would take no as no. And normally try to give at least 3 days notice for a date.
USMCHokie Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I can see an argument both ways...I would generally ask a girl out 2-3 days before the planned date...so Tuesday or Wednesday for a weekend date, like Art said...but there's also a place for the impromptu date, although much rarer...sometimes it's ok to be that spontaneous...just depends on the situation... To add to that, asking her out for a date on a date that was so far ahead, like New Year's Eve, shows that you are confident and expect the two of you to still be together at that date. It's a good thing. Eh...I prefer not to, but if it must be done, then it must be done...the farthest ahead I've ever asked someone on a date was two months...and that was like a week ago...
Veronica K Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 A woman who will call you out for "too short notice" probably would have told you straight up if she had 0 interest, so there's a possibility she actually would like to go out with you or has considered it favorably, but has boundaries about advance notice 50/50 just not interested/honest. Would give her another go. In fact would go ahead and ask her out for New Year's Eve, if she has a sense of humor, she will laugh. If not, meh. Yes, I'd go ahead and ask once more. No expectations, of course.
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