So, LDRs kinda suck.

[sfl]

(bit of background) I met my girlfriend a couple of months ago, she made plans ages ago to move away this summer, so we decided to see how it goes, and we pretty much fell for each other in a pretty huge way considering the time we've been together.

 

But now she's actually gone I kinda don't like it. This'll sound lame but I feel because she has so much new stuff going on in her life that she's going to get bored of me, or find someone better and more suited/local - despite the fact she's just came back to see me this weekend and we've agreed to see each other pretty much every weekend.

 

As well as that, I find myself thinking about her all the time. All. The. Time. And I'm thinking surely it can't be normal, to be thinking of someone you've only known for a couple of months so much, when they're so far away?

 

With her, everything definitely feels right though, and we've both said that we feel a lot more about each other than we did any of our previous partners, but I don't like feeling like this - worrying if she'll get bored of me and find someone better, it not being easy to see her etc - and at such an early stage of her going away, I'm thinking to myself will it get better, or worse?

 

If the latter maybe I need to do something about this as I already feel I'm ruining her new experience and stuff by being a bit of a tie, even though she really doesn't see it like that, I still feel maybe she'd be happier, especially if my feelings right now are already paving the way towards disaster :/

 

Would really appreciate some opinions - thanks!

[Romance]

Do not worry constantly! Clearly if she wants to see you every other weekend, you're very important to her and her new exciting life. I feel similar to you at times, I feel like my boyfriends life is much more exciting than mine (he's 23, I am only 20, thus he can go out with his friends and I cannot).

 

I also catch myself thinking about him all.the.time. I do sometimes think "this cannot be normal.." But, I guess he's just on my mind. I still do my schoolwork but sometimes I will be reading and have no idea what I just read because I was thinking of him.

 

But I definitely agree with your titles, LDRs suck. I'm sitting here in my room watching tv and I just wish so much he could just be here to watch tv with me. And then to know I'd see him the next day after he left, it'd just be so wonderful to have that normalcy. -sighhh-

 

Do not break up because you're worried! You have no reason to be, just trust each other.

[sfl]

Thanks Romance - I think yeah, I need to stop worrying about these things, but despite having quite a lot going on right now (good friends, just bought a new house, a lot going on at work etc) I kinda don't care about any of them, and everything without her feels kinda 'meh' - I'm just worried that'll only get worse with time.

 

And yeah, since she is meeting so many new people (she's at uni) with much more in common with her than me, I do really feel like maybe it's only a matter of time before she starts to realise that she can do better (she's definitely out of my league, even though she thinks it's the other way around!)

 

But glad to hear it's not just me - I do the exact same as you a lot of the time, even little things like the TV shows as you mentioned, you think "aww, I wish she was here to have seen that" etc, damn it

 

I won't break up with her and I do trust her 100%, she wouldn't cheat on me I'm sure of that, but falling for someone else who's probably more suited to her is maybe a possibility :/

[folieadeux]

My only advice would be to try to not worry to the detriment of your relationship. It seems as if your SO is working through things, and the best thing really is to try to keep busy. LDRs are very difficult at times, but definately can work. Best of luck to you both!