Do people ever drastically change for the better?

[TwilightSky]

I've often pondered that question. A lot of the people in my life seem stuck in the same "stale patterns" state, that aren't helpful (just different patterns of course). I feel like there is no realistic hope for me.

 

It seems to me that optimism creates an illusion.

[LuckyLady13]

People do drastically change for the better! I've seen it happen and I'm actually one of them. However, the closest people to me are stagnant and have been for years. My best friend of 20 years is a prime example.

 

I found that being around people who are the type of person I wanted to become was the best thing I ever did. I still love my best friend but being around stagnant people made it harder for me to change in the ways I wanted to. My family is also stagnant.

 

I got a new job around the exact type of people I wanted to be more like. I still got to stay best friends with my best friend but had great influences around me who aren't stagnant at all. The best of both worlds?

[TwilightSky]

Good point, being around certain people can reinforce the perpetual negative patterns, I guess. I'd type more, but I have to pee really bad.

[USMCHokie]

Yes, people are capable of change, but true change of one's fundamental nature and character takes time...often a very long time...but it is possible...

 

And I agree with LuckyLady that people are most heavily influenced by the company they keep, and it will certainly affect how capable one is of change.

 

We are all prone to "stale patterns" in our life...even I feel like I'm stuck in a "rut-tine" in life...sometimes new people, new interests, or even a new environment are what we need to be a catalyst for that change...

[Tayla]

In speaking of core values then no they are set, they can be altered and bent yet mostly we retain those values thru out life. If you are speaking of changes in behavior or outlook in life, absolutely its feasible and often encouraged thru trials and tribulations.

 

Try to be wise when growing and changing, sometimes it was "those" very folks that get cast to the side that helped you to get where you are...They at the least deserve regard in that manner.

[skydiveaddict]

 

It seems to me that optimism creates an illusion.

 

 

It does for me also

[TwilightSky]

It does for me also

 

Yeah, it sucks, doesn't it?

[skydiveaddict]

Yeah, it sucks, doesn't it?

 

 

Yes it does. There can be traumas in one's life that can prevent a change for the better.

[TwilightSky]

Yes it does. There can be traumas in one's life that can prevent a change for the better.

 

True, but most "positive thinkers" don't see it that way because their lives are going relatively smashingly.

[skydiveaddict]

True, but most "positive thinkers" don't see it that way because their lives are going relatively smashingly.

 

 

Most "positive thinkers" dont have those traumas to deal with. I can be a "positive thinker" as well, but it doesnt change reality

[Mad Max]

People can drastically change for the better. Most don't.

[Green]

who are you and what exactly do you want to chage?

[TwilightSky]

who are you and what exactly do you want to chage?

 

It doesn't matter.