tinybear5 Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Anybody think the ex and i of almost 3 years ( we broke up almost a month ago), think that we can be friends? we are both 22 yr old college students with HUGE career goals ... we had a really strange relationship..it all happened SO fast, i mean heck we slept together on our 2rd day hanging out .never met eachothers friends, or family. never went out together, except for an occasional food run or to a convienent store. not that he didnt invite me out with his friends, i just didnt want to hang out with people i dont know... we never went to the movies or did anything together really. ..never took pictures....Our relationship consisted of my coming over about once a week, having sex, talking and texting on the phone throughout the day. heck i didnt never even went his birthday dinners out with his friends ( i hate unfamilar social situations). Emotionaly we were always there for eachother. we never got to share a new years kiss or spend the night together. i have super strict religous parents so any reltionship i have needs to be kept hush-hush. and he was fine with that. with all that said, somehow we were madly in love...does anybody think maybe we can have a friendship now that the "relationship" is over? When it comes down to it, we both knew we wanted forever but we werent ready forever...my dad doesnt believe in datting unlesss im finsihed with school and im going to be getting married....so its kind of like we never got a REAL shot...almost bad timing...thoughts anyone?
Trovador Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 First of all, you need to be more independent... not even in my culture (Hispanic, which is more opressive and traditional than most) 22 y/o girls aren't allowed to date... I am fine with my 16 y/o daughter having a bf (she doesn't but she knows her old man will be there to support her)... Of course you can be his best female friend, if you don't mind knowing he will be having sex and making out with other girls, and that he shares something more substantial with said girls than the usual gossip about college that he will share with you... Maybe you are best prepared than the rest of us to be friends with an ex... if that's the case go for it, enjoy his friendship, the best second thing in the world... As for me, if I can't have the best thing (for whatever reason) I don't want or deserve leftovers... but that's me... I prefer nothing to half or 3/4...
Author tinybear5 Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 First of all, you need to be more independent... not even in my culture (Hispanic, which is more opressive and traditional than most) 22 y/o girls aren't allowed to date... I am fine with my 16 y/o daughter having a bf (she doesn't but she knows her old man will be there to support her)... Of course you can be his best female friend, if you don't mind knowing he will be having sex and making out with other girls, and that he shares something more substantial with said girls than the usual gossip about college that he will share with you... Maybe you are best prepared than the rest of us to be friends with an ex... if that's the case go for it, enjoy his friendship, the best second thing in the world... As for me, if I can't have the best thing (for whatever reason) I don't want or deserve leftovers... but that's me... I prefer nothing to half or 3/4... idk i kinda feel like i want all or nothing with him....he cant seem to cut me out of his life..when he says things like "i wanna get back together eventualy" it makes me wanna fight for him....i just REALLy dont know what to do anymore.. Im thinking about giving this "no contact" stuff a try.
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