Why didn't I think?

[Dan654321]

Just using this pc. I am 52 y/o female. Need advice.

Here's what happened. For the past year I've been calling this guy that I used to work with.

Well, 15 calls, later he finally kissed me. Just litely the first time. We met for coffee several

times. And well this led to that. And we finally consumated the relationship, several times. I like him. And he is so much fun to be with. I really think he really cares for me too.

Here's where the problem begins. My ex boyfriend showed up. He lost his job and I let him stay with me for a couple of days. We slept together. I phoned my friend and told him I had goneback with my ex boyfriend and to not call me. 2 weeks later. I tried to call my friend and salvage our friendship. He listened to what I had to say.He made it clear that I had hurt him, because he felt we had a real relationship, and that he felt that I had become his girlfriend. He went on and said how he had felt that the way we had pursued our relationship was kind of storybook. And that my ex entering the picture had ruined it. He went on some more and ended up with, Why did you do this to us?]I of course apologized. And told him that I had cried alot since I had done this. I told him that nothing had happened between me and my ex. It was just friends. That I had used a poor choice of words. When I said I had gone back with my ex.

 

We talked a lot that evening and I spent the night with him. Well here's the rub, I am still sharing the apartment with my old boyfriend. And we have bought a mobile home together. We will have seperate bedrooms.My friend will not accept that. Our relationship has really hit bottom. He can't get past the fact that my ex boyfriend is just a friend. I want my friend back.

 

The first thing he says he can't get past is,

1. Me telling him that "I was going back to my ex, Don't call me anymore."

2. The second thing is me basically setting up house with my exboyfriend. He says that's just another slap in his face.

 

 

I really think we have something going. But I have hurt him so bad. And I really think we could have a future together. What should I do.

Edited September 26, 2010 by Dan654321

[Kael]

I think you ruined it with your friend. Accept the fact that you are living with your ex, and understand that most guys wouldn't be able to trust you in that situation. From his prospective, it's pretty easy to see that you are with your ex now.