dispatch3d Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Why is this not a legitimate response? My calendar is full, on any given day I would have to check my sched and my office if anything has changed since the last time I checked....many women lead very busy lives. And even when I have said yes to a date, very often last minute things come up and I have to cancel and then I am labeled as a "flake". I am sorry, but in what I do, I am required to be available for work 24/7. you are the exception. I would just cancel whatever you are planning. There's no real way to do it smoothly or anything. I'd just give a "nevermind, I have other stuff I can attend to" or whatever. I'm not taking some girl out to diner/whatever if she feels the need to leave herself some "out" to not having to go.
dispatch3d Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 think about it this way. Would a chick put up with this ****ing bull****? No ****ing way in hell. I see no reason why men should be expected to.
skydiveaddict Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Is there a way to avoid that whole "Let me get back to you" spiel? I think I have an idea. No there is no way to avoid it. She is telling you in a cowardly way that she isnt interested
D-Lish Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 think about it this way. Would a chick put up with this ****ing bull****? No ****ing way in hell. I see no reason why men should be expected to. Of course women put up with it, I am actually amazed at some of the things both genders put up with from the opposite sex, at the expense of their own self respect.
dispatch3d Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Of course women put up with it, I am actually amazed at some of the things both genders put up with from the opposite sex, at the expense of their own self respect. touche. I'd have to agree. They are probably more attracted to the fact a guy actually has the balls to do that sort of thing. Most guys just ask for another chance (despite being treated like ****).
tami-chan Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Let me ask you this, do you make it a point to offer an alternative day for the date? 1. "Gee, sorry, something came up and I can't make it. vs. 2. "Gee, sorry, something came up and I can't make it, however, I am free this other night" The #2 is the better option #1 suggests that you're not into him. That's another way you can figure out if a person is really into you or not....they're willing to move mtns. If you can't FIND the time, you MAKE the time, OTHERWISE, the person is simply not into you to give them the motivation necessary to do what they can to get with that other person. Yes, number 2 is definitely a better option. I mean, usually, it is possible to arrange for someone to cover so I can have a hitch-free time with someone, etc. but other times it is just impossible to get that someone and you say yes to an invite hoping that you will not get a call from work.
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