I am miserable because of her

[Sharmzy]

sorry this is long but from what i have to say do you think i am really not over my ex or feeling this way just cause im lonely?

 

well my ex broke up with me over a year ago but she always had me spun around her finger. i would do anything for her and she knew it. she hurt me so much that now i just despise her. now she's doing the same to her new guy. cheating on him and stuff. never in my life have i hated someone so much that i wanted them to die. the way she escapes with taking advantage of people.

 

but as much as it shouldn't concern me, i think the real reason why i can't move on is cause my life is horrible. i don't have very many true friends, i'm introverted and have a solitudal personality, i'm at home most of the time. i just can't go through all this on my own. and her escaping with her actions when i just want her to be miserable makes ME even more miserable. what do you think i should do?

[shayan]

you're not miserable because of her, you are miserable because of yourself. You let her use you because you were alone and needed companionship after your break up. You can't blame her for you misery anymore it's been an entire year. You need a lifestyle change just by the nature of your post I can tell your inner self is screaming to become more pronounced in the world. My suggestion: start becoming more social ( read self help books in the topic), finish mourning your ex, and stop keeping tabs on her life. Self pity perpetuates self pity, just mourn her and move on ok!

[on edge]

OP, I would consider myself introverted and I also enjoy a lot of "me" time. In fact, I didn't really go out all weekend, and that's not that unusual for me.

 

But don't get hung up on these labels. Social situations are just harder for you and me, but they are not impossible.

 

And you need to get past your ex. If she can still make you angry then you are not over her.

[TaraMaiden]

......what do you think i should do?

Cultivate indifference.