cdbroken Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 (edited) My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years has been cheating on me with his ex the entire time we have been together. I caught him once & he said it wouldnt happen again & that he wouldnt talk with her anymore. Well come to find out it did happen again & was going on for the last year. There is alot of negaitive history between them & she is always threating to kill herself because of him (she is a bit crazy, I have met her). He said he made another mistake by sleeping with her because she needed a friend so he talked to her & somehow ended up getting drunk & sleeping with her. He said from that time she started blackmailing him by saying that she would tell me if he didnt keep seeing her (she knew about me the entire time), he says he did it cuz he was protecting us/me & said he tried several times to break it off with her but she would always threaten (& once tried, she was committed to the hospital) to kill herself & she would threaten to get ahold of me (drinking was apparently involved all the times they were togehther). She is the 1 that that actually ened up telling me that they had been seeing each other but only AFTER he really broke it off & told her he was tired of the threats & to just tell me if she wanted to. He says it was a big mistake but thought he was protecting us & that he loves me & cant believe what he did to me/us for someone he doesnt really care for & isnt even worth it. I love him more then I have ever loved anyone before & I do believe he loves me & not her but I dont know if I can forgive him. He says the life he had with me is truely what he wants & the time with me was never a lie, says all we had & did togther was really what he wanted. Should I give this relationship another chance?????? Edited September 26, 2010 by cdbroken add a word
sugarmomma Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 You caught him once and he did it again?? He was blackmailed?? For real?? Please stop being so gullible. Please move on. He will do it again and he has no respect for you or whatever form of a r you guys have. Don't be a glutton for punishment. Isn't this situation painful for you? You are responsible for stopping your pain and if he is the cause of it... you know the rest.
Sazerac Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Should I give this relationship another chance?????? No, my dear. Please, no. Regardless of what he said, the relationship is built on fabrication and lies. And consider: even if everything he said was true about how she was blackmailing him, do you want that level of drama in your life on a regular basis? This guy's entire life is bounded by a crisis. Run. Don't walk. I know it will hurt, but it will hurt worse in the long run when you're even more vested in this person.
Woman In Blue Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 He said he made another mistake by sleeping with her because she needed a friend so he talked to her & somehow ended up getting drunk & sleeping with her. Don't you just hate when that happens? Happens to me all the time. I get together with a friend who needs someone to vent on and the next thing you know, I'm drunk as a skunk and getting humped. Good Christ, he's pathetic. He said from that time she started blackmailing him by saying that she would tell me if he didnt keep seeing her (she knew about me the entire time), he says he did it cuz he was protecting us/me... Wow! What a guy! So every time he went running over there to get laid he was doing FOR you and to protect your relationship. Got it. LOL...this guy is SUCH a pathetic douche nozzle. He says the life he had with me is truely what he wants & the time with me was never a lie, says all we had & did togther was really what he wanted. LOL. They always say that - after their sorry asses are caught. Should I give this relationship another chance?????? The guy's a loser. Why would you waste another second on him?
Viva Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 This sounds so crazy. I once had a friend who sounds EXACTLY like that girl. It's so weird that I have to ask you this, were both you and your ex dancers? Because my friend was obsessed with her ex and was even more obsessed once he started dating a new girl who was also a dancer. I hope you're not but your story sounds SO MUCH like what I've heard from my exfriend. My advice to you is to move on and forget the trash. It's time for a fresh start and a chance to meet new, responsible and mature people. No girl deserves to be put through crap like that.
TigerCub Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 You're actually believing this?! really? Yeah nothin says sexy quite like a crazy suicidal girl - that musta been why he f'd her the first time and then all those other times were because he was being blackmailed, and he actually had to keep screwing her FOR YOU!! wow, I guess being a martyr these days aint so bad Don't give this lying douche a minute of your time, he's not only a liar and cheater, but he obviously doesn't think much of your intelligence if he even tried that stupid story on you.
lebbis Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Should I give this relationship another chance?????? No............................
ComeUndone Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 He doesn't deserve anymore chances. He has proven that he can't be trusted because he is a cheater and a liar.... if you stayed with him you wouldn't trust him at all anyway, so what's the point? There are other men out there.... go find one who respects you and loves you like you deserve.
Dexter Morgan Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Should I give this relationship another chance?????? he is cheating because you are allowing it by giving him chances. cheaters don't deserve 2nd chances, and it especially true in this case. so I just have to ask you, what are you thinking in wanting to give this repeat cheater another chance? is he just too good looking or something?
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