I have a boyfriend, he has a girlfriend and yet we love each other...

[pirateress]

I am very confused and I really need someone else's opinion than my friends'.

I have a boyfriend of 6 years who I love, appreciate and respect very much. I would do anything for him.

However, there's this guy who I've known for 2 years now who has instantly become someone I cannot live without. We talk every day and we have so much in common. He is so caring. He would do anything I ask him to do for me. I have more things in common with him than I will ever have with my boyfriend. I can tell him stuff I can't tell my boyfriend. Some time ago I even got him a job in the company where I work.

 

He is giving me hints all the time. He told me that he dedicates Daft Punk's "Something About Us" to me: http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/daftp...ngaboutus.html

 

At times I think that I'll lose my mind, that maybe I am misinterpreting signs, but right then, there he comes again with a statement that blows my mind. My friends who know him and the situation we are in tell me that there's something between us and that it's so obvious.

 

Last year, we were away together for 3 weeks (no bf & gf). Everything could've happened there and then, but nothing did. Nothing ever does.

 

Nothing physical (hugging, cuddling, kissing or sex) has ever happened. I feel so tensed when I am near him. I dream of him every other night.

 

I've tried to tell him how I feel with this song, but I don't think he understood what I was trying to say:

 

My boyfriend is very jealous at him, so is his girlfriend at me. There are times when we are together and when of our partners call and we hide that we are together...

 

I want to know for sure how he feels. I want him to say it. I don't think I would leave my boyfriend for him, but I simply need to know. Is he not sure how I feel about him? Is it because I have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend? How to get it out of him? How to tell him how I feel?

[Dexter Morgan]

I am very confused and I really need someone else's opinion than my friends'.

I have a boyfriend of 6 years who I love, appreciate and respect very much. I would do anything for him.

 

I want to know for sure how he feels. I want him to say it. I don't think I would leave my boyfriend for him, but I simply need to know.

 

 

this is a joke, right? how old are you?

 

You are disrespecting your bf in a major way. If you love him you wouldn't care how someone else feels about you.

 

Break up with your boyfriend. He deserves better.

[TigerCub]

I agree with Dex. If you don't plan on leaving your boyfriend, what does it matter how this other guy feels for you?

[reservoirdog1]

this is a joke, right? how old are you?

 

You are disrespecting your bf in a major way. If you love him you wouldn't care how someone else feels about you.

 

Break up with your boyfriend. He deserves better.

What he said.

 

From your description, you have a far more intimate relationship on many levels with the OM than you have with your BF. Your BF is the one you're supposed to share everything with, but you don't. What you have with your OM is an emotional affair.

 

For two years, you've allowed your "friendship" with the OM to leech energy from your relationship with your BF. Let your BF go and sort out your feelings. He doesn't deserve to be kept hanging by you if your heart's not in it.

[Owl]

First off...pick one.

 

You can love, respect, and emotionally invest in only ONE relationship.

 

Which one is it?

 

BF, or other guy?

 

Choose, and remove the loser from your life, completely, totally, and forever.

 

Then let us know who you chose and how we can help you develop that relationship.

 

If you can't choose...then even the field, tell BF how you feel about other guy, and vice-versa...and let THEM choose for you.

[greengoddess]

You're not married. He's not married. Dump the bf/gf. Are you going to wait till someone is married with kids and then cheat?? You want to cheat with this guy. Dump the boyfriend before you do it. You are already lying to your bf about your relationship with him.