malc Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 To summarise, I posted on these forums back in Jan 2010, I was dropped by my ex so quickly without any regard for how it would affect me. It was a long distance one, and she made it clear 'thanks for the memories, but I want very little to do with you now'. I beat myself up over it for months, going through several different phases, always willing to make the effort to keep it going, then trying hard to get her back, then acceptance, then picking myself up and moving on. All these months since Jan 2010, I have forged a successful career, decent amount of money coming in, still single but having fun with friends, colleagues etc. Until a few days ago, she contacts me to say shes been thinking about the times we have had, that she misses it, she misses me, and has been waiting to catch me on skype and see me. I have effectively healed, but deep down, maybe I still have those feelings for her, but why would she want to contact me now, after treating me like this for so many months?
brainblox Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 but why would she want to contact me now, after treating me like this for so many months? Who care why, you moved on so keep moving with the motion and don't look back, she misses you, well let her carry on missing you and make sure she knows that your the one she lost by moving on and not by contacting her !
Iconoclast Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Long distance relationships are just not worth it anyway. Here's what you do, make it clear to her ... "thanks for the memories, but I want very little to do with you now". Reap what you sow.
sanskrit Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Why would she contact? Her social life is not going as she would like, maybe got dumped herself, and coming back hoping tossing out some crumbs to you will get you back as an attention supply. She needs to be much more vocal about wanting you back. When they aren't being that vocal, they are just fishing around. Odds are, there are troubles with the guy she dumped you for. That's usually the case when women come back out of the blue.
Dazzel Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 I wouldn't do it. It seems suspicious that she would contact you out of the blue like that. Perhaps, as sanskrit said, she got dumped by someone and is just seeking company or a temporary fix for her loneliness. You've been without her for a long time. Have you been thinking about her often? Or perhaps are you thinking of taking her back simply because the offer presented itself? And to me, long distances relationships aren't worth the effort. IMO, you should just find someone you can physically be with, not having intimate talk into the speaker of a phone.
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