He was cgeating the whole time

[cdbroken]

My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years has been cheating on me with his ex the entire time we have been together. I caught him once & he said it wouldnt happen again & that he wouldnt talk with her anymore. Well come to find out it did happen again & was going on for the last year. There is alot of negaitive history between them & she is always threating to kill herself because of him (she is a bit crazy, I have met her). He said he made another mistake by sleeping with her because she needed a friend so he talked to her & somehow ended up getting drunk & sleeping with her. He said from that time she started blackmailing him by saying that she would tell me if he didnt keep seeing her (she knew about me the entire time), he says he did it cuz he was protecting us/me & said he tried several times to break it off with her but she would always threaten (& once tried, she was committed to the hospital) to kill herself & she would threaten to get ahold of me (drinking was apparently involved all the times they were togehther). She is the 1 that that actually ened up telling me that they had been seeing each other but only AFTER he really broke it off & told her he was tired of the threats & to just tell me if she wanted to. He says it was a big mistake but thought he was protecting us & that he loves me & cant believe what he did to me/us for someone he doesnt really care for & isnt even worth it. I love him more then I have ever loved anyone before & I do believe he loves me & not her but I dont know if I can forgive him. He says the life he had with me is truely what he wants & the time with me was never a lie, says all we had & did togther was really what he wanted.

Should I give this relationship another chance??????

[Don Ho]

I love him more then I have ever loved anyone before & I do believe he loves me & not her but I dont know if I can forgive him. He says the life he had with me is truely what he wants & the time with me was never a lie, says all we had & did togther was really what he wanted. Should I give this relationship another chance??????

 

I understand the pain that you're in, but a cheater is a cheater. A cheater is also a liar by definition. If he really wanted the life he had with you, he wouldn't have cheated. Remember, cheaters are liars. He will do it again and, once again, you will be left wondering and miserable. It's best to cut your loses now. It's better to cut off your toe now then to wait and have to cut off your whole foot later. Be strong Sista. You deserve better. No second chance, he proved himself over the past year and one half. Move on.

[Iconoclast]

You've been in a soiled relationship for a year and 1/2, from it's beginning. That's supposed to be the best part.

It will always color your relationship.

He's an ass.

Walk away.

[PixieStix]

My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years has been cheating on me with his ex the entire time we have been together. I caught him once & he said it wouldnt happen again & that he wouldnt talk with her anymore. Well come to find out it did happen again & was going on for the last year. There is alot of negaitive history between them & she is always threating to kill herself because of him (she is a bit crazy, I have met her). He said he made another mistake by sleeping with her because she needed a friend so he talked to her & somehow ended up getting drunk & sleeping with her. He said from that time she started blackmailing him by saying that she would tell me if he didnt keep seeing her (she knew about me the entire time), he says he did it cuz he was protecting us/me & said he tried several times to break it off with her but she would always threaten (& once tried, she was committed to the hospital) to kill herself & she would threaten to get ahold of me (drinking was apparently involved all the times they were togehther). She is the 1 that that actually ened up telling me that they had been seeing each other but only AFTER he really broke it off & told her he was tired of the threats & to just tell me if she wanted to. He says it was a big mistake but thought he was protecting us & that he loves me & cant believe what he did to me/us for someone he doesnt really care for & isnt even worth it. I love him more then I have ever loved anyone before & I do believe he loves me & not her but I dont know if I can forgive him. He says the life he had with me is truely what he wants & the time with me was never a lie, says all we had & did togther was really what he wanted.

Should I give this relationship another chance??????

 

 

Best thing you can do is respect yourself enough to walk away from this loser. Cheaters never change. I wouldn't give him the time of day, just my opinion.

[retro_muz]

I’ve recently gone through a very similar situation to you which I posted about on here in July for help, a girl I believed was the love of my life and at 24 I can hand on my heart and say was my first true love turned out had cheated on me with her ex.

She confessed everything and what started out as one drunken mistake ended up being a 4 month long thing that had been going on, I took her back and tried to make it work, we both did.

After 4 months I realised I was the unhappiest I’d ever been in my life, not because of her, I know she regretted what she’d done and was sorry, I know she tried to repair ‘us’, but she couldn’t do anything about the loss of respect I had for myself for taking her back in the first place.

Walk away from him, in the long run its for the best, I understand you love him, believe me I understand its not easy despite what he’s done, love’s sh*t like that. The fact is he doesn’t deserve you and your love, you deserve better even if he is sorry and wants you now, it’s too late.

I still have a great deal of love for my ex, I miss her and still get very angry because of what she did, but I know it will die away eventually and in the mean time I know I’ve done the right thing.

[cdbroken]

I understand everyone feels I should leave him & there was a time that if someone told me this story I would have thought they were CRAZY to stay, till it happened to me. The circumstances involved in all this is what makes it hard to leave, not only am I totally in love w him he is my best friend & I have never found that in anyone else (Ive been in several long term relationships). The ex involved in this actually contacted me to tell me that she knows she never mattered to him & that he does really love me. The circumstances in this are all so different then anything I have ever experienced or ever heard of anyone else experiencing.

Ty all for taking the time to write respones, I appreciate what everyone has to say:confused:

[Iconoclast]

How's it gonna feel when he does it again after you're married?

 

Here let's look at this great line again:

"He said from that time she started blackmailing him by saying that she would tell me if he didnt keep seeing her...he says he did it cuz he was protecting us/me"

 

You gotta be fooking kiddin' me.

[2sunny]

Should I give this relationship another chance??????

 

you are joking, right?

 

i can't believe that is the question after all the lies and deception you have written.

 

you deserve more - don't even think of going back.

 

he's a complete dork.

[porter218]

Do not give him another day of your life. You are wasting precious time with a liar and a cheater. If this has been going on from that early in the relationship then you MUST understand that the relationship is based on a lie. You probably don't even know the true him because he has been looking you in the face telling bold faced lies from the beginning. He is trash that needs to be disposed of....and I promise you will love again and next time it will feel even better.

[Don Ho]

Sista! WTF are you thinking? You LOVE him?? Not to insult you, but really. Now think about this. Not to be graphic, but he was sticking his dick in another woman and licking her all over .... and that doesn't make you ill??