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:lmao:Hello, I am new here and seeking advice. My husband and I have been together for almost twenty years but married for just over ten years. A couple of years ago right after my dad died he had an affair. After begging and begging I reluctantly took him back. However, I never kicked him out of the house, I just couldn't bare the thought of pushing him into her arms. Flash forward to now. My mom just passed away in august from cancer and I found condoms in his pocket the morning after he was supposed to go on a tour of some jail. He is in corrections. I kicked him out of the house immediately. He has been gone for almost three weeks. We have been texting back and forth but he has not really made any effort to make ammends. Any communication has been initiated by me. He recently changed his facebook password which tells me he is hiding things from me. When he was here he was constantly on FB, his xbox or his Iphone. He was completely disconnected from me and the kids. I know in my heart divorce is going to be the right thing for me and the kids. I have seen an attorney but financially can't make it happen right now. He was the love of my life. My first great love. I have never cheated on him and never would. I have always been pro counseling and we did some the last time this happend but didn't keep it up. I don't know what to do. I promised myself if he did it again that I would not give him another chance. But when you love someone so much, how do you just let them go. I'm really heart broken and confused.

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I don't know what to do. I promised myself if he did it again that I would not give him another chance. But when you love someone so much, how do you just let them go. I'm really heart broken and confused.

 

If you have made the decision to divorce, and feel it is the only way forward, then you must keep your promise to yourself. If you truly feel that it has gone far enough.

 

Love cannot be a one way street, happy, fulfilling love cannot anyway. You feel betrayed, heart broken, and understandably so. Take a hold of those feelings and use them to your advantage, don't buckle under them.

 

It seems from your post that he has been backing out of the relationship for a while. I do understand your feelings but you must be strong for yourself and your kids.

 

I am sorry no one replied earlier to your post BTW. How are you doing now?

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