stepka Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 My stbxh left over a year and a half ago, so most of the emotional crap is over and I guess I waited too long to file b/c his guilt is almost gone. He left to go live a gay lifestyle and I'm to the point of saying more power to him and I'm ready to move on. I filed sometime last spring, maybe April or May. It took them until mid August to get the final papers written up and while I've seen them, they haven't given me the go-ahead to send them to him for review or suggested an appt for both of us to come in and review. Is this normal, or am I being put on the back burner? The stbx stopped giving me money for child support (he was being really good about it previously) and frankly, I"m concerned about how I'm going to make my next rent payment--I have a $1000/mo rent and don't make much more than that on my own. Yes, I need to get another job, but I'm trying to get started with a career in teaching and the teaching jobs have dried up and so have the rest of them as well, I'm working as a teacher assistant until a teaching job comes open. My ex has this fantasy that I should be able to walk into a $60,000 a year other kind of job after being a SAHM for years, but I can't see that happening and I don't think I should be forced to change my career plans b/c he wanted to go and be gay. Yeah, I know, he didn't "decide" but he knew about being gay all along--it wasn't an overnight decision. He thinks this b/c I have a college degree, but I have never worked in the field for which I'm trained and have no desire to now. So I don't know who I'm more disgusted with--the ex or the lawyer. I told my lawyer about his cutting us off, and they said they'd get back with me this last Tues but then I didn't hear from them again. At what point would you fire them and find another lawyer, or am I being wildly impatient? I mean, they've had these papers drawn up for over a month.
tojaz Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Not sure what all you have involved in yours or if its being contested, but if its just a matter of having him served, then it shouldn't take anywhere near as long. When my ex filed, I was served the next day, and the entire divorce was done in the minimum amount of time the law would allow. The lawyer is working for you, if he is not returning your calls or doing what he says he will, then I would definitely fire him. TOJAZ
Author stepka Posted September 25, 2010 Author Posted September 25, 2010 He's been served already--that part happened almost right away. I should have mentioned that this is a very simple case--no debt, no real estate holdings, and we split the savings acct in half. The cars were paid for and he took his and I took mine. There will be child support and maintenance, but we haven't even gotten far enough for it to be contested yet b/c my ex hasn't seen the final papers. I am thinking that the lawyer is taking way too long, but I have nothing to go on--this is my first divorce so I have no idea what a normal timetable is. This may not be the right forum to be asking it, so does anyone have any suggestions?
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