Cuchara2 Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 So if you read my previous thread I'm having some problems with my ex. I really want her back and I went to this party (not at her house in the end). I just got home now. It was really strange as we talked about our relationship (I picked her up, told her to stfu, told her either she was thrown in a swimming pool or she had to talk to me - I live in Greece so the pool was warm ) so we had drunk a little each and I told her I was sorry I acted like a twat throughout our relationship. She said she missed me but we couldn't get back together because we always conflicted and argued. I did not try anything, I just told her what I felt like and how I'm sorry that I was an arse and I would not be able to speak to her. I told her she would always have a special place in my heart and she said that I would always have that place too, however there was this one dude she migh like that lives in Spain. I am going tomorrow to "take care" of him and I am coing back the same day. So he's out of the picture regardless. I miss her. So my dilemma is: She has admitted she misses me and she still loves me. This is my first love/I am her first love and I don't care how much you beg me/try to persuade me to move on I cannot. I really want her back and will do whatever is needed. What do I do? Please, please help me as I cannot go on without her being mine
Citizen Erased Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 So you think you're going to get her back by "taking care" of a guy she likes? Yeah. Good luck with that.
ChrisMc Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 "take care of"? Uhhh, you realize this is the Internet, right?
Author Cuchara2 Posted September 25, 2010 Author Posted September 25, 2010 (edited) By "take care" I don't mean I'm going to go and make him disappear or something like that... I know him and he knows me, we're kinda friends so I'm gonna go tell him to gtfo - I was going anyway as I used to live there and I need to get some things which I left behind from when I moved here, but seeing as it makes me look like an e-thug I'll take that out.. And about my problem with him, it isn't really a big one as she said it was more of a friendship thing as he supported her when she broke up with me (so basically he tried to get in there when we were finished.. d*ck). I just really want to know what I can do. P.s. I just realised I can't edit my post any more. Edited September 25, 2010 by Cuchara2
Don Ho Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Bro, are you nuts? I don't know why guys don't get this: it has nothing to do with the other guy!! SHE can choose to date or be friends with any guy she wants. If you're pissed and butthurt, then direct it at her, not some guy. It's not like he stole her away or she cheated on you with him. Even if she did cheat, that was HER doing and choice. I'm dating a woman and her Ex wants her back BAD. He's an acquaintance. If he came to me and asked me to "bow out" I would say "Bro WHY are you coming to me? If SHE wants you back, then she can take you back. It's got nothing to do with me. If SHE wants you, then she can have you". I think you're a little too obsessed. Go on Amazon and look up books like "Obsessive Love" and see if that helps.
TearsofHope Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Damn , I wish my ex was fighting for me like that. Gosh, this is why I miss having a male companion.. Okay hun, I understand you are putting your heart and all in this to get this girl back.. But involving yourself in altercations with other people is stupid. It's dangerous, and you know you can go to jail for assault. I don't know how they do it in Greece/Spain, but in the USA, hit somebody, you either going to jail or somebody's somebody will come after you. Hehe, sorry that is how they do it in LOS ANGELES . LOL Honestly, this girl is playing games, doesn't know who the hell she wants or you are obsessively crazy over her/possesive and cannot leave her alone. Don't do that to yourself, it's okay to be angry, hurt, sad by the loss, but fighting the "new guy/girl", stalking to the extreme, going to jail, is not worth it. You will certainly scare her off for good with that type of behavior.
brainblox Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 I need a lotto win and a date with Meg Fox, funnily enough I don't think it will happen and I except it. My point is there's a lot to be said for letting go and moving on, it takes so much strength and drains us dry but I honestly feel if we completely let go we will get that strength back and more, live and learn !
Author Cuchara2 Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 (edited) I'm angry at HIM because he's kind of a friend of mine, who tried to get with her by being really nice to her when we just broke up.. That's what pissed me off, nothing else. She herself said that it was obvious he was doing just that. Edited September 26, 2010 by Cuchara2
Don Ho Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Yeah I get that ... if he was kind of a friend. But was he really or you just kind of knew him? I understand being pissed though.
Author Cuchara2 Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 I see him every summer for like 2 months, so I'd call him a friend. I talked to him and he was apologetic.. but now the thing is I need to talk to her. I realised that although we've talked a couple of times, I've never actually asked her out again.. Do I seeing as she said she missed me and loved me and my friend/one of her best friends is leaving on friday for good, so she'll have feelings of missing someone? - Harsh to put it that way but in my eyes it will help.
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