citygal16 Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I haven't written in QUITE a long time, and was just thinking back to a year ago when I first started writing on this board... as a quick history lesson, my H had an EA with a co-worker and quickly fell out of love with me, thus starting a long 2 year process of him saying and doing mean things in order for me to leave him/not want to be with him....needless to say, when I first came to these boards a year ago (when we separated) I was desperately sad and didn't know where else to turn. I was SO afraid of what my life would be without my H of 5 years....I didn't think I could really do it....we didn't have kids, but just to exacerbate the situation, I was unemployed...anyway, a year later, I feel like a different person! The day he walked out that door, my life changed for the better! I realized that I am a strong person and HE was the one holding me back from living a better life. Everything changed that day for the better and if you're out there and sad and confused like I was, I want you to know that there is LIFE after divorce! And in my case, a REALLY GREAT life! And not because I've found some other wonderful man, but because I've taken control of my life and am able to take care of myself and live the life I always wanted....and, actually, there's several other wonderful men now...hahaha... It might be hard to see the end of the tunnel, but you can live a life after a bad marriage without bitterness or regret... and it can be wonderful! I just wanted to say that, as I was just thinking about where I was mentally a year ago and I would have loved to know at that time that things would be ok....and not just ok....but AMAZING! So hang in there!!! Sometimes a little time and a lot of perspective can heal the deepest wounds
porter218 Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 I know how you feel. I went through a similar scenario and now almost 2yrs post divorce I am happier then ever. Letting go was hard for me but I felt so much peace in my life when I finally did. My husband was cheating for the millionth time and with a newborn baby it was a huge decision. Now I have been dating and found that there are great guys out there. I think it my have been 2 or 3 yrs ago that I started posting so everyone watched the ups and downs. Now with just myself and my 2 kids to worry about I have found happiness.
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