aeion Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 So, after weeks and weeks of NC, i drunkenly broke NC and asked her to meet up with me to at least hash everything out and be good with each other again. I dont want to get back together. at all. In fact, im even starting to see someone i really like... The thing is, i do miss her company in the sense of her personality and opinion (there is also the fact that we have class together twice a week, and its only a 10 person class) So, this brought me to ask her to meet up and talk. I do want her friendship, and yeah there are still feelings, but i really like this new girl and i wanna see where that goes. I hate leaving things open ended, and the fact that we didnt clear the air about what actually happened bugs me to the point that i cant fully enjoy this new connection until this is all sorted out and there is nothing more to say. So my question to all is: Has anyone been in this boat? and how did you go about the convo? This will prolly be my last post on this site (until the next break up hehe) Thank you for your advice, you guys have really helped me deal
Trovador Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Why would you want to be friends with your ex when you are on the verge of having another gf? That seems to me kind of disrespectful for the new girl, who surely would want (and deserves) a clean start with you... About the closure you seek, it is overrated... I don't see how those infamous last words would help you to heal faster or give you some peace of mind, when in truth what she will tell you it's the same damn thing, that she doesn´t love you and that you are clingy, needy and so on... You broke NC, not her remember? I think that if you really didn't want her back you wouldn't be perusing this meeting with her but maybe you'll be one of the few lucky guys who have managed to get their ex back with just a snap of their fingers, on a last date! (I hope you won't get offended with my sarcasm) When I've found another girl that I really like I couldn't care less about having a last date with my ex... on second thought, even without a new girl I couldn't care less... Sorry for my Engrish, man, I wish you all the luck in the world...
Author aeion Posted September 25, 2010 Author Posted September 25, 2010 the thing is, i didnt initially break NC. She did, i responded to it 3 weeks later with that drunken text. i also have a class with her where i KNOW we will have to interact. So i guess i just want us to at least be cool, until i dont HAVE to see her anymore
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