Billie The Puppet Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I've notice a pattern here on LS with "breaks" followed by a break up. The next time a "break" occurs in my life I'm just going to go NC right away and see what it for what it really is a break up. When women want breaks they really want a break up is what it seems to me. The part that is a slap in the face with my situation is during the break I told her about my plans to propose and she said well if it were to happen I'd still say yes! What a ****ing rollercoaster, we end up going ring shopping and back together until I confronted her about an email and end up split up. I wish I never had seen what I saw and terrorize her about it since then we have been split. Due to NC to my knowledge the ex is still single (ironically one of her excuses was she never really got to experience single life. I don't buy that as an excuse I do buy my neediness and insecurity ending it but she says that has nothing to do with it. Since the BU almost 3 months ago I was riding on hope we will reconcile. I was on Lc until early sept and been NC since. ( I acted on what I thought were signs she wanted to reconcile when in reality they were not) when that cold harsh rejection came a heartfelt nc email was sent and ever since we both have stuck to NC. I wish that never happened either. I wish I just pulled the NC thing without the email.
Cuchara2 Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Breaks are ****ing stupid. Women just want to be sure they want to break up with you, so they have a break - time away from you to make it easier for them and then do it when they're prepared, or it can work the opposite way around (I guess if you NC - never tried as I've had 1 chance and I obviously ****ed it up or I wouldn't be on this site haha) and they become sure they want to be with you. Life's a bitch. What else can I say?
Billie The Puppet Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Breaks are ****ing stupid. Women just want to be sure they want to break up with you, so they have a break - time away from you to make it easier for them and then do it when they're prepared, or it can work the opposite way around (I guess if you NC - never tried as I've had 1 chance and I obviously ****ed it up or I wouldn't be on this site haha) and they become sure they want to be with you. Life's a bitch. What else can I say? I wouldn't be on this site either but that's where it gets ****ed up This "Break" was only a physical break doesn't want to see me but wanted to spend my money on a trip to see if it could fix things. I played along and we were in LC for the break that lasted a whole 1 weekend or so. I never booked the trip as I told her it made her look like a gold digger and we just got off of one. However the whole engagement talk came up and what not then we ended up where we are now broken up. I admit it stems from my accusations but I can't helpo but feel she wanted it too. Then her actions since the BU made my mind seriosuly spin with mixed signals. I found this site and went NC shortly after. I am still pining wanting another chance. I just dont get the whole break thing and getting back together if that is truly not what she wanted. I have done so much for this girl and got nothing in return yet call it fools love I still want to reconcile. Though I can do a lot better I don't like giving up on her even though she has on me. I am hoping with time I mean a lot of time we find our way back to each other.
Cuchara2 Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Sounds like exactly what I feel.. Well not the engagement part just yet - I think 18's too young to get engaged It's just I'd like to feel that we both really tried and it really didn't work out.. Just get one last chance to prove to her that I'm not this dickhead she makes me out to be.. I get mixed signals too, one of her friends slipped it to me that she really misses me, then there are all these other signs that she misses me but yeah what can I say? Hopefully wait it out and she'll come back If not, I don't beat myself up any more, I know there are other people out there so why wait if she won't come back?
Author Buccaneer55 Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 Well I wrote another thread yesterday mentioning I had met someone new that I had some interest in. Well today me and her went to lunch, and I got her #. So today has been a good day, and I'm going to take this slow, but hopefully this may have the potential of something down the road.
Author Buccaneer55 Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 Small update here. Got her number last week, fought off wanting to text or call her for 5 days. Finally called her yesterday chatted for about 15 minutes, and I asked her out for this weekend and she said yes. So again just wanting to take things slow, but they seem to be looking good.
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