Snowman27 Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Hi everybody. I am 26 years old and I have been with my girlfriend for almost 5 years, last night she told me she cheated on me 3 months ago with some random guy. It sucked the life out of me and broke me in two. I havent been the greatest boyfriend ever but I never cheated or deceived her in a malicious way. The thing that hurts is that I never saw it coming, i always trusted her and now i cant belive a thing she says. I had a gut feeling she was still seeing him beause of the way she had been acting the last few weeks. I ended it and told her I deserved better. I feel like total SH**, it hurts so bad. I cant get the image of her doing this to me out of my head. I really thought we were soul mates and would live our lives together. I think this has been the lowest week in my life and I dont know how to start moving on. I feel so alone now and i feel so powerless to change anything. I feel like i wasted 5 years of my life with somebody who just tossed it aside for no real reason. I know this is a dumb question but how can i ever trust a girl again? she always told me i was the best boyfriend ever, i really gave it my all and it still failed. I feel so broken.
Don Ho Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Bro, that's just your ego talking. Stuff happens. You didn't waste five years, I'm sure it was good during that time and, luckily, you learned she's a liar and a cheater. Imagine if you had married her, had kids and found this out 15 years from now. Get up, dust yourself off and move forward with your life.
Author Snowman27 Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 Bro, that's just your ego talking. Stuff happens. You didn't waste five years, I'm sure it was good during that time and, luckily, you learned she's a liar and a cheater. Imagine if you had married her, had kids and found this out 15 years from now. Get up, dust yourself off and move forward with your life. Don, thats what my friends tell me. I just wish it didnt have to be this way. she made me so happy.
Don Ho Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Yes DID, before she cheated. Look how she makes you feel NOW.
xinchao123 Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Don, thats what my friends tell me. I just wish it didnt have to be this way. she made me so happy. But people change. You will sooner or later realize and accept this. the sooner you do, the faster you heal. Right now you can't even think of trust, but its just temporary,you'll build it up as time goes by. Oh man, what a crazy world it is right. I've been dumped like you, after 1 week of ups and downs. I've finally found out what I really want to do now is focusing on my study, then later my career. That is the one that I should achieve. Love comes and goes so don't worry man you'll have a new wonderful GF before you know it What the hardest part now is accepting the fact that she is an @sshole (i'm sorry to say that), that your love is so OVER, and that you should FORGIVE her, and FORGIVE yourself. it sounds weird at first but trust me, once you can do all these you'll will feel 80% up again. Thanks a lot to LSers there are a lot of good advices.
brainblox Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Least you never found out from someone else, She sounds like a real piece of work by doing this S**t ! I feel bad for you and if it happened to me it would end any respect I had for her instantly,no calls no texts telling her she's a dirty Beitch, no abusive emails... NOTHING ! Do for yourself now and whatever it takes to get your trust and self respect back, know what you want and don't want and call this experience not a waste of time ! There are loads of better fish in the pond and maybe your attracting the wrong type without knowing it ? Hope you get over this asap and find a lady to help you forget this tramp..gud luck !
Author Snowman27 Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 Thanks for the replys guys, its just really hard right now. I have lots of debt and only part time work and now this is thrown on. bad things always seem to go in 3s. I am so glad this didnt happen after we got married, we were talking about it too. No children which is good too. I hope in a few weeks i can stop thinking about it and push it behind me.
Author Snowman27 Posted September 25, 2010 Author Posted September 25, 2010 we were young when we started, i just trusted her completely and her admisson came out of nowhere like a ton bricks. 3 months of lies,lies,lies and more lies. I just wish she had told me 3 months ago, i feel like a total sucker. the thing hurts most of all is that she was or at least i thought was my best friend. Im sorry if i seem like im whining, i just never had this kind of experience before. One day you are looking forward to spending a vacation with what is you think is your soul mate and then the next day its all over and you may never talk to her again.
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