newyork Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Basically me and my now ex gf were going out for just over a year and for the last few weeks of the relationship she started acting distant toward me. We then had a little argument and she said she wanted a break. I disagreed with the break at first and we met up the next day and she told me she "doesn't know what she wants". I then agreed to take a break until she sorted herself out (i told her take as long as you need and email me when you know what you want). After a week she asked me how i was and i asked her if she knows what she wants yet and she said she still didn't know so we broke up over text. I went a month COMPLETE no contact and then emailed her asking how she was and if she would like to meet up sometime. She hasn't responded yet. Personally, I think the reason she started acting distant towards me was because I kind of smothered her a bit (.i.e was a bit needy with her SOMETIMES) and probably made myself too available to her during the relationship. She was also a bit depressed at the time. I am sure she still has a lot of feelings for me even though she broke up with me. I haven't chased after her one bit since we broke up, Ive been keeping busy and meeting new girls etc., however I want to try and get her back to try work things out because yes you guessed it I still love her. Does anybody think there's any hope in getting her back and could anyone give me any advice on what I should and shouldn't do??? And does anyone have any suggestions on the REAL reason she broke up with me? (Sorry about the long post but I could really do with some advice!)
Sonolumino Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Hope is what keeps you from moving on and keeps you in the past. Crush hope and move on. She probably broke up with you because your neediness like you said. Once the attraction wore off, she got tired of dealing with it and most likely acted the way she did because of that. Neediness isn't the easiest thing to fix but it can be done. Focus on yourself right now, don't contact her again. Improve yourself first.
Don Ho Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Personally, I think the reason she started acting distant towards me was because I kind of smothered her a bit (.i.e was a bit needy with her SOMETIMES) and probably made myself too available to her during the relationship. You got it right Bro. Yep, you smothered her, were too available, too needy and a pussy. When you did that, her interest and attraction to you plummeted. It's going to be very difficult to get her back once she has lost feelings for you. The best you can do is date others, move on and DO NOT contact her. Any contact from you will just confirm that she thinks you're a wuss. IF she contacts you ok, but you shouldn't hold your breath.
Banega100 Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 yeah i recently did this bro. You just have to start over with new girls, there's no way back for this one sadly. But you appear to have learnt the necessary lessons, so work on feeling more secure so you need a girl less.
Author newyork Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 Yea I think yous are right. Guess I'm just gonna have to man up and get rid of this hope. Ugh relationships are such a head***k!!! Alright cheers for the advice!
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