commonlife Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Hi, Some of you know my story, well after a few months, I realize I don't want my ex anymore... It has been 6 months that she dumped me like a piece of **** and was comming back for occasionnal sexe and ripping my heart out (and of course always on her terms, if I wanted to see here she would refuse). Well, hanging around with other people made me realize that there are so many people who are happy to see you, who want to mdo things with you and with whome things are so simple. Realising this, I noticed that I didn't miss my ex anymore. This post is just to say that you can't force someone to want you. Look around, there are so many wonderful people around. Just let go, take care of yourself, take your head out of the dark, meet new poeople and you will be amazed at how things change in your head. I met this new girl and things are so simple and natural, there again, why go for the hard way? all of you take care of yourselves, keep the spirit hight and LET GO OF THOSE WHO DON'T DESERVE YOU....
Sonolumino Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I'm so happy for you! I hope to be at this place soon. "Let go of those who don't deserve you" is a damn good quote. Good post
Ajax Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I'm hoping it won't take six months to get there. Five more months of this will be excrutiating.
BeagleGal Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 commonlife: Can't wait to reach that point! Not to say that I've kept my life on standstill cuz of my ex, but its been a rough few months and not going to lie, still miss his trifling ass but I am doing better than I was when we first broke up and when the truth started coming out about him. Glad to hear it does get better - very reassuring!
Billie The Puppet Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I'm hoping it won't take six months to get there. Five more months of this will be excrutiating. Tell me about it but I fear it will be as long if not longer for myself. My older sister was a dumper, and she told me it took her 2 years before she felt normal again. See I think I can go out on dates fine if I manage to get more but I can't see myself committing to some one else for awhile. Really my love was supposed to be indefinate as I was ready for 'Til deat do us part and my ex and I discussed how neither of us wanted to marry and end up in divorce as we both came from broken families. So maybe this is her way of telling me better now than later. Though we were picking out rings. A month earlier.
Author commonlife Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 To all of you, I hope you all get there soon, I think what it takes is a trigger. For me it was realising how relationships with people could be so easy and rewarding. You will get there eventually, patience also keep in mind that you ex is not a unique person. Yes you can miss his ass or her beautiful hair but people are different and you will love theme for other reasons. So yes to all, it does get better, let go and it will happen (and NC...)
lvixen Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Well, I hope you aren't going to be sleeping with her anymore...right? I'm hoping it won't take six months to get there. Five more months of this will be excrutiating. Unfortunately it can take that long or even longer. But will you feel the same way in 6 months as you do today? Absolutely not. You will have some good days and some bad days but you'll start to feel better soon. Go NC if you haven't already and if you have just hang in there.
Author commonlife Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 No more.. she liked sleeping with me, maybe that is all she liked about me so I am taking it away with all that I am. I will give this to people who deserve it I will not lie saying I would like to take her in my arms and make love to her, but where is the point? being alone the next day? no!!!!! I am now free from her and intend to stay this way. If we ever get back together, she will have to prove a lot of things but this isn't the question right now. Now I am fine and living my life fully with people who deserve it
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