tinybear5 Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 honestly , im fed up with this. these past couple of days the idea he has been faintly putting into my head was "id like to try and work on this, but in baby steps"......he didnt say that, but the comments he has made and the way he has been acting certin do imply that . So anyway yesterday we talked on the phone, and he says "oh i meant like in friends"......so i asked him then what did you mean when you said "i need to figure out if your worthy of a second chance with my heart".......he couldnt answer. NOW, he cant seem to let go. he goes nuts if i dont answer a text from him....this is starting to remind me of the begining of our relatinship when he had the HARDEST time putting a label on it and even calling us boyfriend and girlfriend.... 3 years is alot to throw out and the way im seeing it is he is having a hard time letting go, i dont think he knows what he wants, i DO think deep down he wants to make us work, but doesnt wants to admit it ...ughhh !! what does this translate to in guy code? =[
Dexter Morgan Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Yes, he thinks he can have his cake and eat it too. Why? because you allow it. So don't allow it. Tell him to get out and never come back.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Ex's who are dumpers sometimes want to displace guilt so what he is doing is giving you some of him to satisfy you partially only to diminish his guilt. Go No Contact. Don't answer his either. He could be actively looking for another, while keeping you on the back burner for fear of being alone
Confused728 Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 to me it seems like he wants his cake and eat it too.. he wants to go out and play around but not lose the safety and comfort you provide. He wants to know that if he realizes he is wrong you will be still there waiting..take away his safety net
Billie The Puppet Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 (edited) iPhone posted twice weird If I ever become a dumper I would never do thus because I know how the dumpee feels. Edited September 24, 2010 by Billie The Puppet
Author tinybear5 Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 thats exactly what i think. I really think with the comments he has made about "us"....he' hesistent to admit he wants to work on something...idk why...we agreed to meet on sunday b/c we have something personal to handle. I think im just going to ignore him until. He cant know what he's losing if its constently infront of him
Don Ho Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 If he doesn't "know" what he wants, then he doesn't want YOU. Sista, enough is enough, find a MAN that knows what he wants and wants you.
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