Crazy Magnet Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I know about the 7 year itch. and I know in general there's a rough patch in a relationship about 6 months and then 2 years (sort of a breaking point usually I think) Or at least that is what I have observed. What does everyone else think? How does it work for you and the people you know?
USMCHokie Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Yep...at 6 months, I hit the first rough patch with my ex and she decided to leave...ever since, whenever I sense a rough patch, I get a little worried...
CLC2008 Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I know about the 7 year itch. and I know in general there's a rough patch in a relationship about 6 months and then 2 years (sort of a breaking point usually I think) Or at least that is what I have observed. What does everyone else think? How does it work for you and the people you know? In my last LTR, we had the 6 year itch. But I digress. Every relationship goes through a rough patch, an adjustment period if you will. There is an ebb and flow to every relationship, and you either adjust to it as a couple or you don't, pretty much.
New Again Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I read somewhere that statistically relationships either end in an engagement or a break up around the 2 year mark. In theory that sounds good, but so many of my friends married their high school or college sweetheart one or two years after college, so I don't have too much anecdotal evidence to support it.
Star Gazer Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 3 dates, 3 months, 6-7 months, 18 months-2 years, 6-7 years, 12-13 years... Those are the "make it or break it" milestones I've observed. And when I say this in relation to even just 3 dates or 3 months, I mean the line of thinking is akin to, "Do I want to continue this...?" If you make it past one benchmark, assuming no "issue" arises, you usually don't find yourself asking the question again until the next benchmark.
Romance Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Yeah, I can see that, tbh. I'm around the point of my 2year with my bf and we ALMOST broke up 2 weeks ago. But we've sorted it out and (i think) it has made us stronger(i think). (Neither of us did anything major, it was just nitpicky small irritations that led to a massive crying conversation and rethinking things).
Author Crazy Magnet Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 With the current BF we didn't have our little spat/issues until month 9. It was not what I was used to. But it's all good now. I blame the change to cohabitation.
Alma Mobley Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I blame the change to cohabitation. That'll do it!
jerbear Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I would say date 3, 3 days, 3 weeks, first weekend apart, 3 months mainly, then 6 months and 1 year. After that it is like 3, 5, or 7 years. Congrats on month 9.
eerie_reverie Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 The two relationships I've had that survived the "couple dates" bench stone dissolved at the 2ish year mark (should we get engaged?) and the 6ish month mark (should we get serious?).
SecretSquirrel Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 What do you mean by "rough patch"? When we hit the 2 year mark there was a ton of expectant tension because he led me to believe he was going to propose. Then he didn't, and it was a let down, but we didn't fight about it or have long discussions about it or anything. Now 6 months later he still says he wants to get married, but it's kind of like, "OK, but when?" It's not causing stress really that I would say is a rough patch, but I am thinking about leaving the relationship at this point. We also had tension around the 8 month mark and at the 16 month mark. I guess we are just late for everything
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