Butchannon Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Do you find kicking your unfaithful partner as the reasonable consequence of their actions? What about if you have children together? Would you find it strange if unfaithful partner would resent you because of that?
ladydesigner Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Do you find kicking your unfaithful partner as the reasonable consequence of their actions? What about if you have children together? Would you find it strange if unfaithful partner would resent you because of that? Well I cannot be away from my kids for very long, so yes I would be resentful about it unless I took the kids with me then no. If the kids are a part of the equation all hell might break lose, but that is me.
Author Butchannon Posted September 23, 2010 Author Posted September 23, 2010 I meant if you were resentful if your SO told you to leave because you were unfaithful. And do you think the fact you have kids should stop your partner in kicking you out?
ladydesigner Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I meant if you were resentful if your SO told you to leave because you were unfaithful. And do you think the fact you have kids should stop your partner in kicking you out? No I think it is fair enough to ask the SO that had cheated to leave, but my kids would be coming with me is what I meant. But resentful for being kicked out, no, that is fair.
2sure Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 My having thrown him out for a period after D-Day was the safest and most rational thing I could have done. For him, for myself, and my daughter.
Gfkr2 Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Do you find kicking your unfaithful partner as the reasonable consequence of their actions? What about if you have children together? Would you find it strange if unfaithful partner would resent you because of that? What makes you think the WS is willing to leave by his or her own choice? The WS first needs to recognize what he or she did was wrong. A WS that has NO concience will not leave because they don't feel they have done anything wrong. A H better be damn careful before applying too strong of an arm to his WW even if she is a cheat. He has much to lose if he dares to be abusive in forcing her from the house.
2sure Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Yes, its true. A man really cannot force, push a woman out of her home without risking arrest. In my case, I was so angry he really thought I could kill him. He left rather than have a domestic of that degree. I was so angry I sent my daughter to stay with family for a few days. I did not trust myself.
Dexter Morgan Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Do you find kicking your unfaithful partner as the reasonable consequence of their actions? yes, absolutely reasonable...and IMO, exactly what one should do, and permanently. What about if you have children together? i have children with her, and there was no way I was going to stay with her for the kids and be miserable the rest of my life. I wouldn't be good to my kids as a father in that kind of despair. Would you find it strange if unfaithful partner would resent you because of that? No, I'd expect it. Why would I be surprised if a selfish, unscrupulous cheater acted in such a way? And I'd challenge them to make their resentment known to me after I found out they were cheating. I'd laugh in their face harder than I ever laughed before.
Owl Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Butch... You are sooooooooo focused on this aspect of your situation. I mean this nicely...really. Dude...GET OVER IT. Tell your wife, and your family to GET OVER IT. Tell them to stop gaslighting. Tell them that their focus on this one aspect, and IGNORING her cheating is sheer bullshyte, and needs to stop...NOW. They're trying to spin this to make you look like the bad guy, and get the focus off the REAL issue...her cheating. Stop letting them get away with it. Stop letting it work. Stop going with this crap already. Here's my take. You are not going to reconcile with this woman...ever! NOR SHOULD YOU TRY! She wants to make you look like the bad guy...she convinced her family that you are, just so that she wouldn't look like a cheating scumbag...which she is. She's not marriage material. She's not capable of being faithful...of being a real wife and partner. You'll never have a real marriage with this woman. Stop trying to do so. Accept that it's over. Work out visitation/custody with your kids. Start getting counseling to help you to deal with the emotional issues of all this mess. MOVE ON AND HEAL. Seriously...in all of your posts/threads on this forum, I've seen NO forward movement, no healing, no progress. Just the same question asked/posed in dozens of different ways. It's time for a change, my friend.
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