I'm lost

[Cerb]

Hey internet,

 

I've known this girl for about three years. I fell for her at the spot. I didn't tell her right then and there because she had a boyfriend. We started going out and stuff and we really clicked. She told me she had a crush on me when we were younger. So i took my chance. i told her how i felt. She said that she was flattered, but not really interested at the point. So i dropped it.

 

We continued going out and stuff and then this day it happened. She came over to my place to chat and watch a movie. She fell asleep in my arms (i'm a cuddler) and then i kissed her. She kissed back, she told me she had grown really fond of me and that she had feelings for me to.

 

We started dating for real. (she still had the boyfriend) we really got into eachother. She told me she loved me. When i told her i loved her, she told me she loved me more, you know, the normal happy love stuff. After a few months, i asked her is she was going to still keep seeing him, and she told me it was not easy to break up with him for some reasons, i bought it, i could understand at the time.

 

Time passed. we are now a year and a half together. She is still seeing him. I'm starting to feel like i'm second choise. The past month, she stopped telling me that she misses me, that she loves me. Yesterday she told me that she needs some time to figure herself out. I'm scared i might be losing her. From one day to the next she stopped saying that she loved me. i'm lost..

 

What should i be thinking? I need help please

[fabio10]

Red red red Flag my man, pull back way back no contact when she contacts you ignore her, do your friends know this is going on ?Man this aint a relationship she is selfish you deserve better even if she did leave this guy for you she would leave you too eventually for someone else its her nature. Forget her please or she will really hurt you someday !!!!!

[dbmystinkbug]

A year and a half is a very long time to be dating someone who won't commit to you. I can't imagine how you've let it go on this long, but I agree with the previous poster...you need to stop. She's holding you hostage and is not worth wasting another moment on. No one who really cares for your feelings would have either a) continued seeing someone else all this time, or b) continued sneaking around on her boyfriend without ending it with you and freeing you to find love with someone else. What she's doing is incredibly selfish and you don't need someone like that in your life.

 

Wake up...be good to yourself. I know you care for her and it's hard to hear this stuff. I'm sure she has plenty of redeeming qualities, but her actions to this point speak the loudest.

[brainblox]

Mate she's had her double serving of cake for a year and a half and now your starting to feel second best ? Dump this HO pronto, she's using you for whatever is emotionally lacking in her relationship. Do you want to be with a woman like this ? She likes lots of cake so be warned !

[xinchao123]

man, what is wrong with you ?

I don't know whether you or her boyfriend is a substitution at this time but she is an @sshole. You've been played around you know man ?

 

If i were in your "girlfriend"'s position, I would date 2 of you and won't even tell anything .that is still better than telling you.

What a selfish girl she is

[Sheppy99]

Woah. That's a messed up situation. I was going to write a comment but everybody else pretty much summed it up.

 

How could you ever trust this girl not to do this to you IF she ever did dump this other guy? Think of this from the other guys perspective. Do you think he knows anything about you? Think of how awful this is to be doing this to you, it's even worse to be doing it to this other guy cause he probably has no idea.

 

Imagine you dating her and being madly in love with her for over a year and than finding out she's been seeing someone else behind your back for a full year? You'd be devastated.

 

I'm sure she's told you lots of awful and terrible stories about her current bf and you're her emotional shoulder to cry on but man, still not cool. Get out of that situation for your own self respect.

 

It's not good karma to be screwing over other people like that including yourself. I believe in karma man and what goes around comes around. You don't ever want to be that other guy either.

[Cerb]

so everybody says i should dump HER for not choosing between the two of us. I'm so scared for the black hole afterwards. She is my everything.

[brainblox]

Are you not worth more than this ? ask your self !

[Leandro]

Why make her a priority when you're just a option?

[fabio10]

SHE IS YOUR EVERYTHING.....and you.....ARE HER BIT ON THE SIDE !!!!Bro its obivous you are in love but take off them tinted glasses you have on for afew seconds, she is playing you for a fool !!! Granted you fear not having her but when you find someone new you will see what real love is....now make the leap of FAITH AND SET YOURSELF FREE !!!!

[Eeyore79]

Dump her; she is cheating on you by being with this other guy, and cheating on him by being with you. If she wanted you, she'd have dumped her other bf by now. She's just stringing you along, and nobody deserves that.

[Cerb]

thanks for the feedback everybody. I'm ignoring her. see how long it takes. If i havent heard from her by next week, its over..

 

These next months will be like freaking hell!!

 

thanks for the support