The Reunion. PLEASE HELP!

[AA11390]

ORIGINAL BREAK UP

 

My ex girlfriend and I broke up about two weeks ago after being in a relationship for 3 years. I broke off the relationship because it was something I saw she needed but wouldn't do herself, and when I said "I think you need time to think about what you want" She agreed. She then set a time limit for a "no-contact" policy for about 2 and a half weeks...

 

FIRST CONTACT

 

I texted her two days ago stating "I know you want me to call you soon, but I only want to call if you're ready to talk. I am ready when you are". After I texted this, she immediately called back. I had no original intentions of discussing the relationship at first contact, but she brought it up, and we discussed it for over an hour. There seemed to be a solid answer for every relationship issue that caused us to break up in the first place. Either way, the conversation ended with her asking "What do you want to do now", and I said, I would like to try and rebuild things, is that what you would like to do?" and she agreed however she said she needs "More time to sort things out".

 

SECOND CONTACT

 

I texted her in the morning asking her what exactly needs to be "sorted out". She then called and we discussed more things about the relationship. Things then started to flow in my favor, and she started to agree that we should begin to work things out as a couple as soon as we see each other again in person... This is where it gets confusing...We go to different colleges, and a large chunk of our relationship has been long distance. She is 2 hours away, and originally before we broke up, I was supposed to visit her on the weekend of her birthday, which is this weekend the 24th. Anyway, I continued talking to her on the phone and I asked if she would like me to still come over and maybe we can work things out over the weekend. She agreed and replied " I would really like it if you could come" So I said that I would.

 

THIRD CONTACT

 

She called me shortly after she said she was going to bed, and she didn't have anything to talk about, but was just bored so she called as if we were a couple again. I liked the idea of her calling, but she had nothing to talk about, and was completely monotone the whole conversation (She has a tendency to be monotone a lot). However, although this conversation wasn't "bad" per say, it had me feeling extremely anxious about things, especially my decision to go and visit her at her school this weekend.

 

REUNION

 

So, I should get into her school on Friday around 8pm, and as soon as I arrive, there is supposed to be a pregame session at her dorm suite because everyone is going out for her birthday at midnight. My ex/complicated/whatever you wana call it girlfriend said that she would really like it for me to come the WHOLE weekend, when we spoke for the second time.

 

HELP

 

I do want to get back with my girlfriend, but I am uncertain if shes changed. She stated that she doesn't know herself too well, and that I possibly know her better than she does. I want things to work, and she said she wants things to work, but I feel like she has some kind of unrealistic expectations of me. She said she "loves the way we were in the beginning" And I have always been the same way with her since the beginning, but obviously there isn't going to be butterflies anymore, am I right? Anyway, I really don't know what to do about this reunion, I don't know if I should even go through with it, and if I do, I don't know what the proper approach to take is going to be. I feel so lost. If anyone has ANY help, I would appreciate it soo much.

Edited September 23, 2010 by AA11390

[Von]

Dude just relax and go with the flow. Stop worrying about every little move she makes, girls do all kinds of crazy stuff to test men and see if their worthy.

 

All you have to do is be cool, don't bring up any relationship crap, have the time of your life and be the funnest loudest guy there. Women love strong confident men that take charge and can be funny. Just do it.

 

And if nothin happens, just move on and ignore her. No contact.

[Don Ho]

Wow you're over analyzing this! Why are you even bothering with a LDR when you're in college and there's probably hundreds of available, attractive women there for you? I just don't get the whole LDR. What's the point?