eaglezip17 Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I guess Im posting this in the right spot; looking for thoughts.... history in Calendar format March 08- break up with gf March 08- meet rebound girl on spring break, lives 8 hours away from me March-Oct 08- rebound girl ends up being amazing, arnt official because "im not ready" OCT 08-feb 09- stop talking, distance got to be too much,her school (phd prog, too much)...she dates another guy, i talk to other girls Feb 09- reconnect, while she has a bf, fly to see her last min while shes on spring break. march 09- breaks up with bf to date me. arnt official because she isnt ready march 09-aug 09 - talk and visit each other often aug 09- nov 09- offically dating nov 09- break up because life/school is too stressful, and doesnt need an extra stressor...aka a long distance bf. dec 09- I attempt to win her back, says she just wants to date around. but says she misses me jan 10- march 10- start talking again, multiple visits march 10- on spring break, tells me she loves me...blindside because i was under the impression she was dating around. i tell her i like her, but dont love her (yes im ive been done college still living the dream) march 10- while still on spring break together, gets numbers from other guys april 10- comes to visit, looked like everything was good, however come to find she had been talking to guys from s.break. april-june 10- guy lives 13hours away, tell me shes done with me, shes found something better. i have the normal response w. a breakup, very hurt etc. but i get over it in june. june 10-july 10 tell sme she made a mistake and is willing to come crawling back to me. because i do truly have a connection with her/love her (she knew this by then), i accept. she comes to visit and says lets just forget the past. july 10- tells me shes very busy with rotations, but somehow finds time to travel 8 hrs (3x) to meet up with another guy she met on s.break (happens to be friends with the first one) i write on fbook/tag her in pics that i cant wait to see her (had planned a trip in aug)..deleted instantly by her aug 10-current- basically all but stopped talking to her, 2 phone calls in sept. told me she just wants to live her life, school is too much, and im im involved with med school stuff now. the new guy and her dont write/post on each others walls., strange to me (why i included this) we had our problems, but it was very hard with the long distance/school etc...i was expecting her to last a month and just be a rebound; but she ended up being more my question... is this new guy just a phase just part of her pattern as shown, or is she done...and should i move on. she doesnt call/text me anymore, but will respond, and has said she misses me; this girl is soo confusing but i cant get over her for some reason (also, my best friend dates her roommate, and recently on a trip to see each other my friend saw my exs new guy...and friended him on facebook...was that a slap in the face to me ?...all this is highschoolish , i know, but emotions make people do stupid stuff.
Don Ho Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Move on Bro. They say love should be "easy". This isn't. The long distance doesn't help either. WTF? Are there no attractive, available women within a 20 mile radius of you?
Am4Real Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 WTF? Are there no attractive, available women within a 20 mile radius of you? Brother Don, Now that was serious laugh maker... Very funny sir, very funny. I tip my hat on that one. Hope all is well.
The-Zen-Warrior Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 The only thing I'm going to say about this, well maybe two things to say, first.... Move on my friend, move on, let her go in both your heart and mind, quit looking at her facebook page, don't do anymore e-mails, no text messages, no video conferences (Skype), no phone calls, nothing.........just leave it alone! Second thing I will say then I will shut up! How the h*ll did you remember all those dates? Now I have a superior memory to some, but I couldn't do that! What did you do, keep a traveling journal, a diary or log everything in your mobile device? I'm impressed! Well good luck, leave her alone, keep your chin up and know.......there's many more fish in the sea!
brainblox Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Ah Modern Romance gotta love it..lol. If something starts with the understanding of no strings, aka Booty Call then both party's should understand that it's rarely going to develop into anything else. It sounds like your not sure what you want from the get go and she's doing all the driving. You sound like a nice guy and nice guys have to be smart about the choices they make. I suggest you run away, erase, delete go no contact and forget this bird and understand what you want before investing into the next woman you meet ! A real booty call is never for life as the focal point is pure good old lust without the baggage of emotion. If she's using the L word in a Booty call scenario then she's playing with your mind. Make like a jogger and run away
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