i'mfaraway Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 When and why do people use terms of endearment? Like honey, sweetie or baby? Would it be weird if men use it with women they're starting to know but not dating?
Gattica Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I had a guy I was dating for a few months and within the first month, would sometimes call me babe. I didn't like it at all. You have to build up a connection and feel comfortable with a person. I did find out, that guy was seeing other women and I figured maybe he couldn't remember my name!
TouchedByViolet Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 It would be weird. A much better term would be a fun nickname. Something genuine and creative.
TouchedByViolet Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I did find out, that guy was seeing other women and I figured maybe he couldn't remember my name! haha classy!
brainygirl Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I don't like being called generic nick names. If someone calls me something that relates to me or something that happened between us, (like "grace" because I'm the clumsiest person on the planet) I don't mind as much. But "hon" and "baby", especially early one, are annoying.
Crazy Magnet Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I hate generic pet names and get really turned off if a guy uses one too early. Personally I have never called a boyfriend by a pet name that I have used with anyone else. So "sweetie" or "honey" for me. I wait until I have something meaningful. I refer to the current SO as either "boyfriend" or "sunshine" and he calls me "girlfriend" or "snugs".
loverofloveandstuff Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 (edited) When and why do people use terms of endearment? Like honey, sweetie or baby? Would it be weird if men use it with women they're starting to know but not dating? No, I don't think it's (always) weird. I used to work at a cocktail bar and all the barmen, promoters, security guards and even my two managers always called me babe.. Pretty much from the very beginning. However, if some of my guy friends started calling me babe I might feel a bit uncomfortable. I guess it just depends who. Edited September 23, 2010 by loverofloveandstuff
Author i'mfaraway Posted September 23, 2010 Author Posted September 23, 2010 This guy definitely remembers my name because he uses it interchangeably with a term of endearment. I can't tell whether that's just some generic thing he does with everyone else or he wants to get more familiar.
loverofloveandstuff Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 This guy definitely remembers my name because he uses it interchangeably with a term of endearment. I can't tell whether that's just some generic thing he does with everyone else or he wants to get more familiar. It's hard to say but it has a lot to do with the context of the situation... How long have you know him? Was he calling you the term of endearment from the very beginning? Where did you guys meet? By 'wants to get more familiar' do you mean showing a sign of interest? Alone, I wouldn't say that it is a sign he is interested. Is he doing other things to indicate that he is interested? Also, what is he calling you?
Author i'mfaraway Posted September 23, 2010 Author Posted September 23, 2010 It's hard to say but it has a lot to do with the context of the situation... How long have you know him? Was he calling you the term of endearment from the very beginning? Where did you guys meet? I've known him for about two months through a friend. He didn't call it from the beginning but probably after a month. By 'wants to get more familiar' do you mean showing a sign of interest? Alone, I wouldn't say that it is a sign he is interested. Is he doing other things to indicate that he is interested? Yep, wondering if it was a sign of interest, though I don't think of it as a strong sign. He's quite a gentleman and is always there to care (though of course that could just be in him) and we have a lot in common to chat about. Also, what is he calling you? He calls me 'baby.'
sugarmomma Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Don't call me "baby" or any of that unless we are in a real relationship. Usually when a man says it early its because he's dating multiples and doesn't want to call someone the wrong name. I know since I used to play the field and do it myself. Heehee.
loverofloveandstuff Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 He's probably interested.'Babe' is a bit more generic... I've only heard people who are dating call eachother 'baby'. Atleast in my experience. You could ask your friend if he calls her 'baby' too... that would atleast tell you if it's a term he throws around, or a term he is using exclusively for you.
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