whatislove3 Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 My ex and I were dating for 5 years but we didn't really see eachother that much, my career always came first. My ex would beg to see me almost everyday and just last week i found out that he has been seeing another girl for almost a year behind my back. Pictures I seen of them to seem to be so distant compared when i look at "real couples" pictures. I knew about this girl when they first met and i cut him off from there but he begged for me back and before this girl i caught him speaking to 2 other girls and yet he always picked me over them. Before the break I asked what he wanted and he said he was really confused and lost, ect.. he called me back 5 times in a row and I told him it was over and now his number is changed .. I know deep down he is in love with me and he was always the type of guy that can never be alone .. I'm taking it day by day but I just wanted to know.. Can you replace the one you love with someone completely different?
Sambo Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 My ex and I were dating for 5 years but we didn't really see eachother that much, my career always came first. My ex would beg to see me almost everyday and just last week i found out that he has been seeing another girl for almost a year behind my back. Pictures I seen of them to seem to be so distant compared when i look at "real couples" pictures. I knew about this girl when they first met and i cut him off from there but he begged for me back and before this girl i caught him speaking to 2 other girls and yet he always picked me over them. Before the break I asked what he wanted and he said he was really confused and lost, ect.. he called me back 5 times in a row and I told him it was over and now his number is changed .. I know deep down he is in love with me and he was always the type of guy that can never be alone .. I'm taking it day by day but I just wanted to know.. Can you replace the one you love with someone completely different? To me this doesn't even sound like it was a real relationship, it sounds more like "friends" with some emotional attachment to each other but who am I to judge. To answer your question, No you can NEVER replace someone you truly love it's impossible! That being said, you can find someone you love more or should I say "differently". In your case it doesn't sound like it will be that hard to do because you never really spent that much quality time together by the sounds of it and I can't say I blame the guy for looking elsewhere. I do think he's a schmuck for not breaking off with you first though.
Iconoclast Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 "Can you replace the one you love with someone completely different?" Easily. Just go read the Infidelity forum. "we didn't really see eachother that much, my career always came first. My ex would beg to see me almost everyday" ...and that's the root of your problem.
alphamale Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 everyone is replaceable when it comes to romance
The-Zen-Warrior Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 everyone is replaceable when it comes to romance I hate to be so bold here, but I totally disagree with your statement! I personally feel that no one can ever truly replace someone that they once loved or still love. In my situation, being divorce for over 2 years, and having 5 girlfriends in the mean time, no girlfriend could ever replace the other girlfriend, and none of the girlfriends could ever replace my ex-wife. I find it "illogical" to expect that one person can truly replace another, in regards to romance or love. Every person we have relations with is different, those different people fill us in different ways. When one of those people leaves, by choice or force, the next person may not fill part of the void that the recent person filled. If everyone could be replaced in regards to romance or love, than must mean we are "all the same", no differences, no changes, no nothing....just all people are one "template"! For it would take an identical "template" to overlap an identical "template" to make your statement accurate and correct. Just something to think about..............
Author whatislove3 Posted September 23, 2010 Author Posted September 23, 2010 To me this doesn't even sound like it was a real relationship, it sounds more like "friends" with some emotional attachment to each other but who am I to judge. To answer your question, No you can NEVER replace someone you truly love it's impossible! That being said, you can find someone you love more or should I say "differently". In your case it doesn't sound like it will be that hard to do because you never really spent that much quality time together by the sounds of it and I can't say I blame the guy for looking elsewhere. I do think he's a schmuck for not breaking off with you first though. We were definetly not friends & there is more to the story but I just wanted to get straight to the point.. We were bestfriends and plus in love ..
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