SarahRose Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 My husband and I have different energy levels after work. When I get home I just want complete peace and quiet for awhile to recharge. OTOH he turns on his computer and starts listening to noisy equals 3 youtube videos and starting screwing with the dog throwing the toys and the dog is running across my legs etc. Yeah I have repeatedly mentioned I enjoy the peace and quiet for a little while after work and don't want the dog jumping all over me either but it still continues. Should I just go sit in another room for awhile so I can have my peace?
xxoo Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Should I just go sit in another room for awhile so I can have my peace? Short answer: yes. Long answer: We have kids at home, and this issue comes up a lot. Someone wants some quiet time, but the family is actively (and noisily) using the shared family space. If any family member wants some quiet, that person goes and finds a quieter spot.
Stung Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Should I just go sit in another room for awhile so I can have my peace? That's what I would do.
Silly_Girl Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Should I just go sit in another room for awhile so I can have my peace? Or go and have a bath before dinner, or sit up the garden, or go for walk, or go for a scenic drive and a sit to wind down before you get home, or take it in turns (your night = peaceful, his night = he takes the dog out, with ipod on and leaves you some quiet in-the-house time).
Author SarahRose Posted September 23, 2010 Author Posted September 23, 2010 Short answer: yes. Long answer: We have kids at home, and this issue comes up a lot. Someone wants some quiet time, but the family is actively (and noisily) using the shared family space. If any family member wants some quiet, that person goes and finds a quieter spot. I can understand having to do that when there are kids but there are no kids, just me and him and I dont get why he has to play with the dog right where I am sitting every damn night. There are many other rooms in the house and a large patio and a huge back yard but he wants to play with the dog right where I am sitting. It's irritating. Like tonight I sat there and worked on a flight reservation for 30 minutes and he starts throwing the damn dog toys around and throwing them over me and the dog leaps on the keyboard and wipes out all my work. It really pissed me off. He knew I had a bad day today but still he just kept it up. Sometimes I wonder if he is just passively agressively trying to irritate me?
xxoo Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Sometimes I wonder if he is just passively agressively trying to irritate me? Sounds like you two have bigger issues than different energy levels. Why would you partner do that?
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