beyondwtf Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 she broke up with me last week on the phone. then after like 3 days, she called back asking how i was. the convo was like this. hey. she asked how i was. i said very good. then some noise and i asked and u? she said, shes okay... and i said, why? she said she cant be okay?! i said, she can be in anyway she want. so i was like im busy im doing hw, bye and she said, keep up the good work.. and i hang up. what does she want?! what should i do? im not sure if i want her back, beacuse she was not the best gf...
Billie The Puppet Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Classsic casual call to displace guilt, next comes the can't we just be friends. Just ignore all her contact for the next month. Don't make the stupid mistakes of questioning her or trying to win her back etc. Actually go no contact until she comes to you with what you want to hear.
Ajax Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 It sounds like you also were having doubts about the relationship. Anything you care to comment on? Time apart will give both of you perspective. As for her calling, Billie is right. It sounds like she's trying to "make sure you're alright" so that she doesn't feel like the bad guy.
Author beyondwtf Posted September 22, 2010 Author Posted September 22, 2010 and what is exactly what i want to hear? i kind want to be together again.... but why would she do that?!
Billie The Puppet Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 and what is exactly what i want to hear? i kind want to be together again.... but why would she do that?! Anything that leads to the second bold but actions are louder than words: Here are some prime examples - I made a mistake and I want to work things out - I want you back I am sorry I never should have left you don't be fooled by I miss you etc. Also if the word think appears take caution, it means she hasn't fully thought it out think of think as a maybe. It's an uncertainty.
Author beyondwtf Posted September 22, 2010 Author Posted September 22, 2010 so what should i do? this is pretty annoying. i wnat her back, but she lied to me, and hide a lot of things and she said we are not really compatible and stuff, and she was the one who said that we should just stay friends... on the phone! and she used me too. i ?
Billie The Puppet Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 so what should i do? this is pretty annoying. i wnat her back, but she lied to me, and hide a lot of things and she said we are not really compatible and stuff, and she was the one who said that we should just stay friends... on the phone! and she used me too. i ? There is nothing you can do but move on, if she wants you back she will let you know. It has to come naturally. There are no tricks , schemes, plans or strategies that are guaranteed to work but there are many e-books that will sell you this garbage. Don't contact her and don't answer her contacts, work on yourself, go to the gym, take up new hobbies, hang out with your friends, the hardest part is train your mind to keep it off of her. (I focus on the negatives and it cheers me up for a little while). I have lost a lot of weight in home but I may do the gym thing. I want my ex back too, (A lot of us dumpees do) Date Others: I have even lined up a date, Taking a former crush of mine to a hockey game , my ex will be present to that game as well (She oddly seemed to have copied my purchases). My ex knows I have always had a thing for this former crush and I could possibly increase my desirability to my ex showing her I can move on and if not, I am not at a loss as I already lost my ex, and I can only gain from this date or remain neutral. Where it gets really weird is my crush won better seats to the same game I was taking her too, so could have blown me off but instead she invited me to the better seats and that gave me the option to give my tickets away to which I am giving to a mutual friend of my ex and I if her significant other can go. I hope my ex doesn't think this is a mind game. This couple doesn't get to do much because they don't always have money and I wanted them to have a fun night out. I am hoping they accept. You see by dating others you may find another "one" , you will increase you confidence, and may become that former self you ex was attracted to.
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