For those who don't think it will get easier...

[Confused9]

Three years ago today marks the day that my ex-fiancé told me he didn’t love me anymore, then took it back, then said he was confused, and therefore started the end of our 7 year relationship. We were due to get married 13 months from then. I was stunned, shocked, confused, etc. I didn't know which way was up. I felt hopeless and lost. That was the beginning of many sleepless nights. I had no closure. He wouldn't answer any of my questions and it was just a mess. (I am not going to rehash but you can post stalk me and see how devastated I was). Anyway, he ended up admitting he was cheating, married the OW about 9 months later and had a baby a week or so before what was to be OUR wedding day. So needless to say it was a mess, I was a mess. I felt like I was living but not my life. I felt like I was watching my life crumble around me. I wanted to drive in to trucks and just end it all. I was in so much pain. I just couldn't handle it and I changed so much from that moment on. I was sad, angry, depressed, mad, inconsolable. I couldn't care less about anything around me. He was my everything and I was not whole without him. I begged and pleaded with him to no avail. He was an @sshole and I didn't care. All I wanted was to be with him and I felt worthless without him.

 

Looking back now, I see we weren't meant to be. Sure there are some days when I am like OMG, did that really happen, and it still stings a bit since he was so careless with my feelings at the end. But, I am so much happier now and living proof that time does heal all wounds! I was always told one day I would want to thank him for this and never believed it to be true, but I can sit here today and say with all honesty that I do thank him for leaving. My life is so much better without him and I am so glad that we did not get married. I started dating someone 11 months ago and I am more in love than I ever have been. He is an amazing boy and had an awful time getting me to trust him, but I finally did and we couldn't be happier. I am still scared, obviously, but what happened to me didn't ruin me forever in relationships. I feel even more sure that I deserve something amazing due to the pain I went through with my ex.

 

I want all of you out there who are just starting this hard journey to recovery from a broken heart to know that things do get better and I am living proof. It took a lot of hard work, soul searching, and a few years but it will happen. I know how hopeless you feel and I just hope that you feel better very soon. This website helped me so much when I was going through my breakup and I remember being so inspired by others overcoming their horrible stories that I thought I would come on here and try and do the same.

 

I haven't been on here in a long time and I am not sure if the people who helped me are still here...but you were all angels and so helpful to me. Someday your responses were the only thing keeping me going.

 

Hang in there,

Confused9

[whichwayisup]

((C9)) Glad to see you're on a happier path in life and are doing well.

 

What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger! And you are very strong and wise!

[Confused9]

Whichway!!! Hello! It's been a long time, I hope your doing well! You are one of those people that I owe a huge thank you too! You always helped me!

[Crazy Horse]

Thank you for this. I'm going through something similar and your post really perked me up.

 

I'm glad to hear that what happened to you didn't ruin you forever.

[Confused9]

No, it didn't ruin me, it took some time...but slowly but surely I got better!

[blizzard]

No, it didn't ruin me, it took some time...but slowly but surely I got better!

 

Thank you for sharing...you give me hope...and now a peaceful nights sleep! goodnight.

[Confused9]

You're welcome blizzard. Good luck to you.

[feelingfine]

thanks Confused9! So glad you are doing well!! I hope I will soon be as well!!

[Confused9]

I hope you'll soon be 'feelingfine'