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Well it's been almost two months since the final papers were signed. Aside from making arrangements about our daughter staying with me every few weekends, there has been little or no contact.

 

Out of the blue I get an e-mail from her yesterday. It was a copy of an e-mail

I had sent back in June before the dissolution. At that time I was still trying to save the marriage and I was admitting that a lot of this was brought on by me and I was sorry.

 

She said I just found this, I don't know how I missed it in June.

 

Why send this now? It all seems moot at this point.

Posted

Maybe she's trying to explain she didn't purposely ignore you.

 

Send a one-sentence question:

 

"Does it change anything at this point?"

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Posted

Thanks Tara, I've been debating answering or not and what I would say. Your suggestion is better worded.

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She said I just found this, I don't know how I missed it in June.

 

Why send this now? It all seems moot at this point.

 

She read it in June.. She just felt indifferent to it at the time and now she felt like allowing you to accept some blame..

 

It's just part of the healing and she seems like she is acknowledging the email now as part of that...

 

Since you are still part of each others lives with the child it wouldn't hurt anything to reply as long as any reply was about moving on and keeping the past the past..

Did she say anything other than she just found this ?

Posted

Yeah I call BS on the "just found this" part. She read it at the time but didn't want to reply then, so she saved, and now thought she'd use it.

 

Go with TM's reply.

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Posted

TM, I took your advice. No Reply,,No Surprise

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