lemonworld Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 it feels like I'll never know what it feels like to have a healthy romantic life. i know that everybody gets their heart broken and everybody gets rejected but that's all that's ever happened for me. how do you learn to live with it?
Ajax Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Well, what is your history? If that's the energy you're putting out, it's only going to push people away. Women want someone confident, and people in general want to be with someone who puts off positive energy. I think you need to really look inside yourself and figure out how to better yourself. And until then, fake it until you make it.
health Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 It's just the mind state your in now. I feel the exact same. I've been trying my ass off to find a new girl for the last year and a half and have been rejected left right and center. I think it's best not to even try for like a good year. Then they say it comes to you. But that's opposite of what I believe about working for something. I know how you feel. Your words made me come in here. Keep faith, keep going. It's challenging. Just keep moving forward.
summerl0vesyou Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 it feels like I'll never know what it feels like to have a healthy romantic life. i know that everybody gets their heart broken and everybody gets rejected but that's all that's ever happened for me. how do you learn to live with it? story of my life...though ive broken a few hearts too along the way (Ive had a bf almost always, ever since i was 12, im now 21.) but never for longer than 8 mths...Im the queen of short rships. My advice? Something is wrong with YOU. dont accept it, dont learn to live with it. figure out WHY you are going for certain people or accepting certain behaviors or red flags...THEN change these things, maybe see a counselor. look thru past behaviors, figure out whats not right, and do something. or youll be like me, and decide F all of this, and dont want to fall in love ever again. Meh (no but really, im not trying to be mean. Just tough love. I know how you feel and it totally sucks. sometimes i really wonder why it always happens to me, cuz sometimes I have been truly good to people and it wasnt my fault...but in a way, it was my fault for choosing them in the first place)
carhill Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Some people deal better with the dynamic (of rejection) than others but, with more life experience and a marriage, I can reflect that I ascribed far too much importance to the success of a 'romantic life' than real life has otherwise proven to be healthy. Perhaps that is the lesson of living, helping us ascribe our personal value to the life process. Your path can/will necessarily be different. If you read LS (and other resources), you can learn methods and mindsets to present yourself as a more attractive man to women. Once you attract them, then the process of maintaining relationships with them begins. Or, as I learned, the true work (if 'work' is the proper word for it) begins. Welcome to LS and good luck
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