pandagirl Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Three weeks since the breakup. 11th day of no contact. The pain and anxiety has been reduced to just a sadness of missing him. I just want to know how he is doing. The more time that passes, the more I realize that breaking up was the best thing for us to do. Neither one of us were happy, in or out of the relationship. I lost myself somewhere along the line. We need to be on separate paths right now. But I miss him. I still worry about him and his happiness and well being. I know I should be focusing on myself and not him, and he is not my responsibility, but I wish I could still be there for him, listen to him, help him when he needs help. I miss my friend. A lot.
cb9343 Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 I am on my second day and he walked out on me again... Each conversation with someone who cares about makes feel better.. I know how much people love me and not only him. If though he took so much of my time and i thought i lost some friendships when i reached out to them they are here right now to hold my hand. I feel so lucky right now..You will always look at the good times but you need to remeber the tough times and remember what you deserve!!
Banker Chick Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Three weeks since the breakup. But I miss him. I still worry about him and his happiness and well being. I know I should be focusing on myself and not him, and he is not my responsibility, but I wish I could still be there for him, listen to him, help him when he needs help. I miss my friend. A lot. I can totally understand this. I don't miss him as much as I worry about him because he's dealing with a lot right now and I was one, if not the only one, of his friends that was truly a positive influence and he could talk to. I hope he's doing ok but I realized it's not my responsibility. If things get bad enough for him he'll reach out and then it will be up to me to decide how to handle it.
Author pandagirl Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 I am on my second day and he walked out on me again... Each conversation with someone who cares about makes feel better.. I know how much people love me and not only him. If though he took so much of my time and i thought i lost some friendships when i reached out to them they are here right now to hold my hand. I feel so lucky right now..You will always look at the good times but you need to remeber the tough times and remember what you deserve!! Totally agree. I've surrounded myself with my dear friends who truly love me, and it's made me realize that I'm so lucky to be so cared for. I can totally understand this. I don't miss him as much as I worry about him because he's dealing with a lot right now and I was one, if not the only one, of his friends that was truly a positive influence and he could talk to. I hope he's doing ok but I realized it's not my responsibility. If things get bad enough for him he'll reach out and then it will be up to me to decide how to handle it. Ditto on this. I remember when he broke up with me, he tearfully said, "You're my best friend." But he also let me go... so best friend privileges have been revoked!
Leandro Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 I'm on day 16 of NC and its been about a month and a half since the break up. I miss her but I have accepted the fact that it's over. I think it was best for both of us. We have to go our own separate paths and grow. I do worry about her and wonder if she's happy. That's all I've ever wanted for her. I want her to tell me how her day was but she doesn't, she replaced me with someone else. You're doing good Pandagirl!
Author pandagirl Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 I'm on day 16 of NC and its been about a month and a half since the break up. I miss her but I have accepted the fact that it's over. I think it was best for both of us. We have to go our own separate paths and grow. I do worry about her and wonder if she's happy. That's all I've ever wanted for her. I want her to tell me how her day was but she doesn't, she replaced me with someone else. You're doing good Pandagirl! I think I am doing good! I know this breakup isn't going to "ruin" me. I just miss him. When you think about how someone can go from being the most important person in your life, to someone who is gone... it's pretty sad.
Ajax Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 When you think about how someone can go from being the most important person in your life, to someone who is gone... it's pretty sad. Very sad. After five weeks of being broken up and three of NC, I'm starting to see things more clearly. Unfortunately, I'm seeing that I really was happier with her in my life than I am without her. She was the dumper, and while I still don't fully understand why she left, I'm no longer in the depths of despair.
Author pandagirl Posted September 22, 2010 Author Posted September 22, 2010 Very sad. After five weeks of being broken up and three of NC, I'm starting to see things more clearly. Unfortunately, I'm seeing that I really was happier with her in my life than I am without her. She was the dumper, and while I still don't fully understand why she left, I'm no longer in the depths of despair. Though I miss him, a part of me is excited to start improving *me*. It took this breakup to make me realize I haven't been happy with *myself* for a bit. Surround yourself with your friends and people who love you and you are bound to feel better!
Leandro Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Though I miss him, a part of me is excited to start improving *me*. It took this breakup to make me realize I haven't been happy with *myself* for a bit. Surround yourself with your friends and people who love you and you are bound to feel better! Yea I can now improve myself. I'm applying for internships that I wouldn't have done if I was still with my ex. I'm going to start going to the gym to get in shape. All this will better my future and that's all that matters to me.
bestrong Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I just miss him. When you think about how someone can go from being the most important person in your life, to someone who is gone... it's pretty sad. It has been 2 months NC and 11 months after she and I broke up. I still think about her everyday, wonder what she is doing and wanting to talk to her. I have accepted breaking up is the only way out since we are thousands miles away, but I realized I would never be that happy person again. My heart is broken into pieces and she took part of it away
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