Eamon81 Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 any thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated - Here goes - My ex gf and i broke up back in june this year. she called it off. we were together for just over a year. During the last few months of our relationship we'd started to argue, i lost my temper a few times over silly things, but we always worked it out. on the night of thurs 10th june we had quite a heated row whilst out, and on the sat she ended our relationship. i was understandably upset, but accepted her decision, after all i had acted like a prick during the last few months - there were some reasons for this but i don't want to start making excuses. thing is, it's not so much the break up that has left me confused but the events of the last couple of months. I'll try and fill you in best i can - we work for the same company but in different depts, so its not like i see her all the time, in fact i do my best to avoid her. a week after we split we had a long talk over the phone, she basically said she needs space/time. so i leave her be. then she calls me the following Sunday and says she's not sure if she loves me anymore... this seemed strange to me - why would she call me a 11pm to tell me that. anyway we spoke for another hour, pretty much the same as the last call - needs space, time . our next encounter was on the tube - we literally bumped into each other - this was the first time we'd seen each other since the split about 3 weeks before. she lost it - really went into one - so much so that her eye began to twitch! i apologized to her for my wrongs, said i know i messed up, can we talk tonight, i love you, i miss you. In hindsight i don't think we were emotionally ready to see each other. 3 Days later (Monday) she emails me and says - "I just don't know where it all went wrong"...? this email confused me to say the least - it was my behavior, i thought we'd established that! so i replied and said exactly that. on Friday of the same week she asks me out for a drink. We have a promising conversation, both realize the faults in the relationship and what needs to be done to work on them, but she still needs time/space. its worth mentioning that the next day she was off on holiday for 2 weeks to greece, with her mum. No contact for 2 weeks. The next time i saw her was on the 4th of august at our works summer party, of course she was there - she looked amazing! i approached her and asked about the holiday, how she was etc. Throughout the conversation i noticed she was very distant, cold almost... we started talking about us, things got heated, she said it was too stressful and stormed off... my bad completely. At 8am the next morning she txts me saying - "i'd like us to be friends but i found last nights talk really stressful, so i'm not sure that's possible" i replied and said that "i love you too much to be friends, i can't pretend to not have those feelings for you, i'll have to come to terms with the fact you don't feel the same way" A week passes. At work, after i'd come back from my lunch break - i noticed a package on my desk, sent through internal post. it was a book of mine that i'd left around at her place - she'd decided to send it back to me through internal post at work. I thought this strange because she has 5 books of mine and about 20 DVDs! why just send 1?? i could collect all of them, maybe it was a hint, who knows? The following week she sends 1 DVD through internal post - i had to laugh. A few days later she emailed me this " if you're around tomorrow (sat) i was thinking of bringing some of your stuff over that you probably could do with, how does that sound?" I told her i was away that weekend visiting friends (i was) but i'd be happy to pop round and collect next week - save her lugging it over. No contact for a week. On Monday 23rd Aug i emailed her and asked her out to the cinema - crazy i know, but i thought what the hell. a few days later she replies "don't think i'm quite ready for a cinema trip atm, but when i bring your stuff over we could get a beer" i agreed. That Friday (27th) she came over, we went out for a beer, it was great, no heavy talk - just like we always were together - good! at about 10pm she asked if we could go back to my place for food. we go back to mine, chill on the sofa eat some pizza. At around 12pm she started falling asleep, so i offered her my bed and said i'd sleep on the sofa. she went on upstairs and into bed. after brushing my teeth i checked in on her, she was curled up in bed, and i asked if she wanted some water. Then she turned round and said "i don't want to kick you out of your bed, you can sleep in here if you like..." and how she missed me. We ended up having sex. The next morning was good, not awkward, just like we were together again. i made breakfast and she left around noon, we hugged and kissed as we said our goodbyes. I thought i'd leave it for a few days and on wednesday asked if she wanted to meet up some point this week - i was going away for a week on the friday (3rd) so thought it would be best to ask before then. The next day i get her reply - "i'm going home for a few days tomorrow, have a great time away" i replied and said "thanks, you too" A week passed without any contact, her birthday was that same week, so i wished her a happy birthday, she replied "Thanks!" and that was the last of our contact, about two weeks ago... ultimately i want her back, I'm a bit confused. I've asked her out again but she hasn't really responded - so should i just leave it now? Peace E
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