EnigmasMuse Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 This is just a question I was wondering about. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it, just wanted opinions on it. What do you think about people who are married or dating that have joint account for like emails or even a joint account on Facebook etc. For example , a facebook page might like Joe-Kathy (whatever last name is) Or the email might be, Donna&Steve @ whatever .com etc. The reason I was wondering this, is, I have some friends of mine that I haven't seen in forever and came across them, on FB. It reads both of their names. So I assume its an account they both share. Their home email used to be the same way. I sent a friend request and even though its been awhile, and we lost touch thought I would see how they were doing. The friend request I sent was a few days ago. It would always say still waiting friend confirmation. I kow too, that if you get denied, ignored whatever, it goes back to saying add as a friend or send friend request. So I log on today to find my request had been denied. It kind of hurt my feelings since we used to all be friends, not great friends or real close but we all used to live in the same neighborhood etc. I guess I could send a message asking why it was denied but didn't want to over step. I assume since its a shared one it could have been either one of them that rejected the request and maybe perhaps the other one didn't even know. Anyway makes me wonder why some people have shared accounts like that? Is there no trust there, or maybe one broke trust and feel they need to prove to the other one they aren't doing anything? So they give the other one access? But for that matter why not have a seperate one and give your partner/spouse the password?
Stung Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 (edited) I sometimes think it's because there's no trust, but then why not just share passwords to everything? And it's so easy to make a second FB account or email, anyway. Who knows? Maybe it's a trust issue. Maybe it's easier for them to keep track of their social calender with just one source of invites and connections. Maybe they really don't understand or care about tech networking and created one monolith account so they don't have multiples to sort helplessly through. Maybe they're just endlessly lame and think it makes them look like awesome gods of domestic partnership if they have both their names crammed together on one account. In a case like yours, I'd wonder harder about the trust issue angle. It's possible you stepped on some toes one night long ago and don't even remember it because to you it was not a big deal at all. Stuff like that happens all the time. Just brush it off and move on, it was many years ago and it's just Facebook. Edited September 21, 2010 by Stung I need coffee before I type.
Author EnigmasMuse Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 I sometimes think it's because there's no trust, but then why not just share passwords to everything? And it's so easy to make a second FB account or email, anyway. Who knows? Maybe it's a trust issue. Maybe it's easier for them to keep track of their social calender with just one source of invites and connections. Maybe they really don't understand or care about tech networking and created one monolith account so they don't have multiples to sort helplessly through. Maybe they're just endlessly lame and think it makes them look like awesome gods of domestic partnership if they have both their names crammed together on one account. In a case like yours, I'd wonder harder about the trust issue angle. It's possible you stepped on some toes one night long ago and don't even remember it because to you it was not a big deal at all. Stuff like that happens all the time. Just brush it off and move on, it was many years ago and it's just Facebook. Thanks for your reply! Makes sense. I guess right now I'm more apt to think it could be a trust issue and or "Maybe they're just endlessly lame and think it makes them look like awesome gods of domestic partnership if they have both their names crammed together on one account!" This part you said as well. That is highly possible. They were big into the church so maybe they want people to think this is the way a marriage is or should be.
Stung Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 I actually thought of another possibility, I do know a lot of people who are extremely cautious about using FB because of all the information it gives away to third parties AND because of all the weird drama it can create with people from the past getting to see into current life. I know people who friend only family members or extremely tight friends because they're paranoid about who sees their pictures, for example, and don't trust the privacy settings. I could maybe see them choosing to use one account jointly to tighten down even more. <Shrug> In the end I do suspect that a trust issue or the appearance of a superhappyfun joined-at-the-hip marriage is probably it for most people.
Lady vs Panda Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 ...Maybe they're just endlessly lame and think it makes them look like awesome gods of domestic partnership if they have both their names crammed together on one account... :lmao: That gets my vote. Thanks for the laugh.
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