freestyle Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I don't make excuses for anyone. We all make our own decisions...good or bad. What some people fail to realize is that it doesn't matter how it happens or how it started or what was involved. The fact is that it happened and does happen all over the world everyday. And the relationship between a husband and wife is separate from the relationship between a parent and their child. Don't drag the kids into this. Their only concern is that they have two parents that love them. Marriages go bad all the time and kids survive...I did. You may think I'm F-ed up but I am a product of my upbringing and realism...I get down to brass tacks. I see that spouses these days tend to change during the course of marriage. Who they were or pretended to be to catch the attention of a probable mate ends up fading away and the true individual emerges. For example...A wife stays in shape and frequently has sex with her BF prior to marriage. But after so many years of marriage and/or kids she decides that she never really liked staying in shape, she never really liked having sex all the time, she just did it to keep her man. But now that she has him she can let herself go and he has to stay with her even though she is overweight and has stopped sleeping with him because he is to "love" her for her and all that other stuff doesn't matter. He is shallow if he cares about appearance and sex. But the fact remains that she isn't the woman he married. She could stay in shape...she could sleep with the man she supposedly loves. But she chooses not to. Then her attitude changes and she doesn't even have her personality going for her anymore. And as soon as he leaves...she is right back in the gym and finding a new guy to sleep with. She will do these things for a stranger she wants to meet or just met but will not do it for her husband..the man she loves so much. This works both ways. Men also do the same thing to their wives. So to me it is no wonder why men and women seek out attention and attractiveness and sex from someone else that wants to stay in shape, that wants to have sex, that wants to show affection. Because this is the person they thought they married. But as it turns out it was all a fake and attempt to land a spouse. The reason most spouses might not just leave first is that they still love their mate and don't want to hurt them. Infidelity is not about purposely wanting to hurt your spouse. For all intents and purposes it is a selfish act. A way for someone to seek out happiness for themselves. Now, people do change as they age but not that drastic. And a spouse can't sit there and say that they have tried to be who they were when all they do is make excues and stop trying year after year. Now this is my belief...but if someone is to keep their spouse from looking or thinking or going elsewhere...maybe they should stop pointing the finger and turn it back around and point at themselves..have some apathy. Every action is a reaction to our surroundings and enviroment. Human behavior intrigues me. Yep, I think I'll take your advice................and have some apathy.......
stillafool Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I'm the one she can never trust because the wounds are ways to reveal us. I could have tried and devoted my life to the both of us but what a waste of my time when the world we have is hers. So break me down if it makes you feel right. And hate me now if it keeps you alright. Listen...this story is fictitious. It was an experiment. But the fact is that someone may come to this forum to unload the terrible feelings they have inside them. They want to tell someone because they feel there is someone out there that will listen and not pass judgment. The point here is not to break someone down that has took the time to share a glimpse of their life. And as an outsider looking in...you don't ever know how a marriage is like. You don't know how someone's wife is or husband is and how they treat their spouse to make it become easier for them to go outside the marriage. Although I do agree that a marriage or any relationship should be ended before another person is involved. This is not always the case and this in fact more common than everyone here thinks. I believe that the majority of respondants here have most likely been cheated on and enjoy tearing apart an unfaithful person. You aren't here to give unbias advice. Or maybe some of you just enjoy a crazy story. Whatever the reason is...if you can't say something constructive then don't say it at all. Who are you to tell people what advice to give? You are not Tony! In case you don't know, we already have a Moderater!
Author VanDutch Posted September 22, 2010 Author Posted September 22, 2010 Have your laugh. The real idots are those of you that bought the story in the first place. Didn't you find it odd how much detail was put in to it? It could have easily just said that this guy was married and was sleeping with a married woman. You are all just people that have been cheated on and are looking for someone to blame. I'm done with this...what a waste of time.
BB07 Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Dude, you just might have hit an all-time high for pompous, ridiculous, posts. Congrats to you. Where is the claps hands and high five smiley? Hey VanDutch, what happened in your marriage is no justification for the terrible thing you and your wife's BF have done. You just don't get that. Oh and now you are trying to say you trolled, so you won't have to take a little crap here.......you really are full of yourself, aren't you?
Mimolicious Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I'm the one she can never trust because the wounds are ways to reveal us. I could have tried and devoted my life to the both of us but what a waste of my time when the world we have is hers. So break me down if it makes you feel right. And hate me now if it keeps you alright. Listen...this story is fictitious. It was an experiment. But the fact is that someone may come to this forum to unload the terrible feelings they have inside them. They want to tell someone because they feel there is someone out there that will listen and not pass judgment. The point here is not to break someone down that has took the time to share a glimpse of their life. And as an outsider looking in...you don't ever know how a marriage is like. You don't know how someone's wife is or husband is and how they treat their spouse to make it become easier for them to go outside the marriage. Although I do agree that a marriage or any relationship should be ended before another person is involved. This is not always the case and this in fact more common than everyone here thinks. I believe that the majority of respondants here have most likely been cheated on and enjoy tearing apart an unfaithful person. You aren't here to give unbias advice. Or maybe some of you just enjoy a crazy story. Whatever the reason is...if you can't say something constructive then don't say it at all. AND... *drumroll* IF YOU CAN'T TYPE SOMETHING CONSTRUCTIVE AND STRUCTURED, THEN DON'T TYPE IT AT ALL! There you go... In other words, go with your bullshyte "experiment" else where. We are not lab-rats here. Thank you! Kisses... Me.
Mimolicious Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I don't make excuses for anyone. We all make our own decisions...good or bad. What some people fail to realize is that it doesn't matter how it happens or how it started or what was involved. The fact is that it happened and does happen all over the world everyday. And the relationship between a husband and wife is separate from the relationship between a parent and their child. Don't drag the kids into this. Their only concern is that they have two parents that love them. Marriages go bad all the time and kids survive...I did. You may think I'm F-ed up but I am a product of my upbringing and realism...I get down to brass tacks. I see that spouses these days tend to change during the course of marriage. Who they were or pretended to be to catch the attention of a probable mate ends up fading away and the true individual emerges. For example...A wife stays in shape and frequently has sex with her BF prior to marriage. But after so many years of marriage and/or kids she decides that she never really liked staying in shape, she never really liked having sex all the time, she just did it to keep her man. But now that she has him she can let herself go and he has to stay with her even though she is overweight and has stopped sleeping with him because he is to "love" her for her and all that other stuff doesn't matter. He is shallow if he cares about appearance and sex. But the fact remains that she isn't the woman he married. She could stay in shape...she could sleep with the man she supposedly loves. But she chooses not to. Then her attitude changes and she doesn't even have her personality going for her anymore. And as soon as he leaves...she is right back in the gym and finding a new guy to sleep with. She will do these things for a stranger she wants to meet or just met but will not do it for her husband..the man she loves so much. This works both ways. Men also do the same thing to their wives. So to me it is no wonder why men and women seek out attention and attractiveness and sex from someone else that wants to stay in shape, that wants to have sex, that wants to show affection. Because this is the person they thought they married. But as it turns out it was all a fake and attempt to land a spouse. The reason most spouses might not just leave first is that they still love their mate and don't want to hurt them. Infidelity is not about purposely wanting to hurt your spouse. For all intents and purposes it is a selfish act. A way for someone to seek out happiness for themselves. Now, people do change as they age but not that drastic. And a spouse can't sit there and say that they have tried to be who they were when all they do is make excues and stop trying year after year. Now this is my belief...but if someone is to keep their spouse from looking or thinking or going elsewhere...maybe they should stop pointing the finger and turn it back around and point at themselves..have some apathy. Every action is a reaction to our surroundings and enviroment. Human behavior intrigues me. And the award for "Lunatic of the year" goes to... *drumroll* 1st Bolded- Yes, it does. It's called timeline of events and without them your story has no substance. Before something "happpened" it has to "happen". 2nd bolded- yeah, why don't you do that first and tell us how it goes... "apathy", you sure you know what the word means? Seems out of context in your sentence. Just saying... As they say- 'The cure for apathy is comprehension". Dude, with all due respect you sound like you don't know WTH you are talking about. If you are aspiring to be a writer and make up these type of fictional stories, good luck hone! If this was in fact your life story. I can see why you would want to fool is that it was "fiction". I would be ashamed too.
Mimolicious Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Have your laugh. The real idots are those of you that bought the story in the first place. Didn't you find it odd how much detail was put in to it? It could have easily just said that this guy was married and was sleeping with a married woman. You are all just people that have been cheated on and are looking for someone to blame. I'm done with this...what a waste of time. YEP! You are as dead as your avatar. Don't let the door hit'cha! *waves* Real clown he is. I wonder if this is a dup?! With all the 3 ring circus monkeys that we have nowadays...
SidLyon Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 (edited) A good candidate for the Bulwer-Lytton "bad sex in fiction" award I think. Edited September 23, 2010 by SidLyon
2sure Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Your life must be dull indeed if having a good time requires embellishment of it to this degree. I dont think this was a test. I think OP is a drama queen. I think this whole scenario is based on 2% fact and 98% of what he wishes were happening. Too much day time TV.
JustJoe Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Your life must be dull indeed if having a good time requires embellishment of it to this degree. I dont think this was a test. I think OP is a drama queen. I think this whole scenario is based on 2% fact and 98% of what he wishes were happening. Too much day time TV.2sure.............a thinking man's angel!!
lostsunsets Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 He is so enlightened. Apathy? The man can't put three words together to make a sentence. LOL.
tornandmarried Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 interesting...so he randomly chose a forum to post a crazy story so people will bash him for cheating...but, how did he know that would happen on this specific forum? is he another loveshack member that was bashed for cheating before?? or is he lying about making it up? guilt makes people do crazy things
Dexter Morgan Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Listen...this story is fictitious. It was an experiment. ya, nice try.
Dexter Morgan Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 AND... *drumroll* IF YOU CAN'T TYPE SOMETHING CONSTRUCTIVE AND STRUCTURED, THEN DON'T TYPE IT AT ALL! There you go... In other words, go with your bullshyte "experiment" else where. We are not lab-rats here. Thank you! Kisses... Me. it also means, if this really was an experiment, rather than an attempt at backpedaling because nobody agrees with him, that he is to not be taken seriously in any other thread. everything he says in other threads can be considered a lie now.
tornandmarried Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 haha what a joke....what a feeble attempt to find justice on loveshack (to a handfull of people) to defend all the poor cheaters of the world! they had to do it cuz their life was so empty, lets give them a round of applause for doing a noble deed for themselves! they deserve it
JustJoe Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 :lmao: A good candidate for the Bulwer-Lytton "bad sex in fiction" award I think. Or maybe the Snapper-Organs Reverse Darwinian Prize.
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