Woggle Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Sometimes I think hell yes and other times I don't want to be married to any woman. I hate uncertainty and insecurity and I feel those things very frequently these days
cuore_depresso Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Yes I would...even with our current issues I cannot imagine being married to anyone else.
Woggle Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Yes I would...even with our current issues I cannot imagine being married to anyone else. I read your thread and yet people wonder why I am so insecure about my marriage.
threebyfate Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 The ex-husband, probably not. But then I wouldn't have gained the experience to understand how much of fantastic man my second husband is. And now, I'm married to not only the right person but one that is so good for me!!
Yo quiero Taco Bell Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Nope. Would wait for a tastier taco to come along. Si eres tastey?
Holding-On Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 probably – I had not intended to be married, ever, but then he came into my life and here we are. My life is all the richer because of him and I can't honestly imagine being able to do this with anyone else. that said, there are prolly a few things I would have approached differently ... Well said. Although I don't know if I could go through it all again. I certainly do not want to. If I could go back as who I am today though I would not marry my husband as he was then. We both matured a lot. The hard way.
florence of suburbia Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 I would hold out for someone who makes me laugh and turns me on.
naya1 Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 hi guys upon reading this thread a few questions popped in my mind what are the things that u saw that u didnt like before u got married that eventually lead to the downfall of ur marriage? why did u marry them anyway despite seeing those things.. are there things/changes that happen to ur spouse/ex spouse that just appeared overtime and wasnt there when u were dating or before u got married? what about in laws? do they count? do they have certian characteristics that u didnt like but just let it pass, that also added to the downfall of ur marriage? thanks im not married yet but will be ..soon
GoodOnPaper Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 If you could live your life all over again, would you marry the same person? No. I would take about 95% of my life in a completely different direction. The thing is, would I realize this if I hadn't had the experiences I had? If I could go back 20 years and try to convince my younger self to do some fundamental things differently, I doubt that he would believe me. Doesn't stop me from beating myself up about it though.
redtail Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 ... The thing is, would I realize this if I hadn't had the experiences I had? ... That is the fundamental argument for this type of question, if I had to do it all over again knowing what I know now... Thing is, I know what I know now because of my mistakes/choices/experiences!
Author kuma Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 If I could go back to before the divorce, I would have not divorced but would have worked harder for the marriage and have understood some things better, but if I could go further back in time, I wouldn't have married him, even though he is a great man and we had wonderful times together. I just think we didn't complement each other very well in some areas, though in other areas, like sex, we had a blast. I think we basically married for sex, even though we didn't think so at the time. We were deeply infatuated/in love with each other when we got married, but floating on the clouds doesn't last forever. It's important to marry someone one is compatible with in hopefully all areas or else who one or both partners are willing to compromise on things, and when one does get married, to mature and grow along with the person and not let little things eat you up, which sadly I did. Hi elaina, I understand what you're saying. In my case, I just couldn't give up my marriage because we eloped. I didn't want my parents to tell me "we told you so!":laugh:
Author kuma Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 Nope. Would wait for a tastier taco to come along. Si eres tastey? :laugh: hi guys upon reading this thread a few questions popped in my mind what are the things that u saw that u didnt like before u got married that eventually lead to the downfall of ur marriage? why did u marry them anyway despite seeing those things.. are there things/changes that happen to ur spouse/ex spouse that just appeared overtime and wasnt there when u were dating or before u got married? what about in laws? do they count? do they have certian characteristics that u didnt like but just let it pass, that also added to the downfall of ur marriage? thanks im not married yet but will be ..soon naya1, you may want to start your own thread. You'll get more responses. And congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
jimrich Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 re: If you could live your life all over again, would you marry the same person? .... Yes, but I would definitely go and get an education in good relationship skills and methods which I never had until just a few years ago which has made my 2nd marriage a wonder! I dearly regret that my parents did not teach me how to relate well and I fumbled and ruined many possible good relations by having no clue how to make a relationship work. It kills me to think of all the terrific girls I could have settled down with if only I had been informed and educated in relationship skills back then. Thank god it finally happened and we are set for life!
finding_serenity Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I hate it but I regret marrying him.i thought I love him but looks like I was just lonely and homesick but he gave me ultimatum and that time,i was so scared to be alone, I don't want to lose him so I chose him though I am not ready to settle down.now, I am miserable,i don't feel anything for him,i don't even want his kiss or touch no more.
What_Next Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Yes I still would have, despite the fact that she cheated. I would have not done the things I did wrong in the marriage though. Not sure if that would have changed the outcome, but I'd like to think so. Worst case, she and I created a wonderful child that both of us love more than life itself.
nddb Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Absolutely. My wife said the other night she feels really lucky she found me. I told her it's actually the other way around. If something happens to her, I'll get a dog and spend the rest of my years spending all my free time with our kids. I can't imagine someone else can fill her place.
Author kuma Posted September 29, 2010 Author Posted September 29, 2010 Yes I still would have, despite the fact that she cheated. I would have not done the things I did wrong in the marriage though. Not sure if that would have changed the outcome, but I'd like to think so. Worst case, she and I created a wonderful child that both of us love more than life itself. You still love her. It's unfortunate that some people don't realize what they have till they lose it. I think she'll regret her cheating later on.
Author kuma Posted September 29, 2010 Author Posted September 29, 2010 Absolutely. My wife said the other night she feels really lucky she found me. I told her it's actually the other way around. If something happens to her, I'll get a dog and spend the rest of my years spending all my free time with our kids. I can't imagine someone else can fill her place. You're both very lucky to have each other! Thanks everyone for sharing your stories.
finding_serenity Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 You can send me a PM, if you want. thanks. But I think I'll be able to handle this now.im just taking time.it seems like fate is on my side.(knock on wood) I'm working hard and studying hard too.all my sacrifice and hardwork will be paid off in the end.
InternationalPlayboy Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Like others have said if I had my life to live over, I probably would have changed many things including the circumstances that lead to my wife and I meeting. As for whether I would marry her again? Yes, most likely. Though it is not easy at times, I can't imagine it any other way.
finding_serenity Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 I am just venting... I knew I married the wrong guy.we had argument over little issue but what I don't like is when he did wrong and I get mad, he twist the story and blames me instead.i am so sick of this attitude.he was rude to me when I just ask about dinner and I got offended,i told him and he gave me excuses that I was rude to him that morning and that put him into bad mood.if he was in a bad mood all day,why was he joking with me all morning?i can't stand him twisting events and putting blame on me.
DaisyLeigh Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 Not likely. I love him, we have children and I am a responsible person. But there have been too many broken hearts, too much crap and too much inlaw trouble. I would not marry him again. In fact, I would likely not be in the position I was in to even meet him again, if I could do it over again.
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