tinybear5 Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 if we are "broken up" why does he have to comment on all my online status messges, constently ask me "whats wrong", go CRAZY if i dont answer him...i dont understand what he wants from me =[ I really dont think he knows what he wants, but how can he figure out when he's losing if its always in his face? I really dont know what to do about this situtation anymore =/ . I went over to his place the other day and we talked, we even lied down on the couch together for a little bit, everything was fine . Later that night when i get home he tells me he deff feels like everything is going to be ok . i really dont know how to take anything he says or does anymore . He says NOTHING i do or say can "prove" anything to him and that he needs to figure out if im worthy of a second chance with his heart .. imput?
Don Ho Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Sista! WTH is up with you and the online status? If you're talking about FB or IM, put your status on permanent offline. It's obvious you're just waiting around .... very unattractive. Stop the online contact. Stop giving him his cake. Oh, he's confused but still wants to contact you. I don't fcking think so! IF he contacts you, next time tell him "I AM confused also I NEED some time apart to think. I'll be in touch".
Author tinybear5 Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 its blackberry messenger ...soo u cant say ur offline lol .... ex: i post a status saying 'one mans trash is another mans treasure" he messages me saying "what does that mean?"........i dont answer him but he knows i read it ...a little later he wrties "so ur just not talking to me now?"......i havnt anwerd. so now what?
Author tinybear5 Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 and now he's gettin aggravated cuz i havnt replied to him ...-____-
Leandro Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 we'll if he dumped you he doesn't have the rights to know anything about you now. You're doing good.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 (edited) You are playing games by posting bait statuses you know he may take a different way that's it's supposed to be intended. Can you not block/ remove or ignore bbm users. My ex is posting bait statuses and she is the dumper, they get to me briefly until I realize they are games and I am not giving her the satisfaction of retaliating either. Also when I ignored my ex's im's she got angry which is still an emotion that lead to a fight over IMs 17 days ago which is how long I have now been in NC for. So don't post bait statuses or don't retaliate is the lesson here learn by my mistake ignore. Edited September 21, 2010 by Billie The Puppet
Author tinybear5 Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 i guess i am posting "bait statuses" when i do that, but if he doesnt care, why does he bite!? thats what i dont understand . he gets really antsy when i dont talk back to him...even this morning, no bait message, but he messaged me anyway asking how early i have classes .. i dont understand what he wants .
Billie The Puppet Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 I'm glad you awknowledge them being bait statuses, I'll let you know why he is doing it! He wants you attention to feed his ego, he know's you'll react in such away where he can put you down again. By ignoring him you are at a stand point in which he loses the power over you. In a way you are bruising his ego. Don't get into the status war game. Keep your statuses to a regular in which you would have done before he came into your life. My ex's statuses have all been how happy she is with life since she left me. Now I know my ex, she may be happy but she certainly isn't loving life like she states.
Author tinybear5 Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 but what do i do? do i like talk to him or should i ignore him completly?
TaraMaiden Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Ignore him completely. I'll say that again, in case you feel tempted to ask another, "Yes, but...." question. IGNORE - HIM - COMPLETELY. Completely ignore him. Him? Ignore completely. Ignore completely, him. Get it? Got it? Good.
LoveAintEverything Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 He is worried about you. Just be yourself, that is all you can do.
TaraMaiden Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 He's not worried at all! She's goading responses, and he's obliging! If she stops posting inane comments for no reason, he will stop replying to everything! Really, he needs blocking completely, because otherwise, Mind-Games like this become interminable....
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