Torime89 Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 So its been almost 3 months since me and my ex boyfriend broke up. We were together for 5 years and were engaged and all that. We just went through a big rut and I broke up with him because I was tired of it but wanted him back because I still love him and wanna work it out but he thinks we should stay broken up because there isnt a spark anymore between us blah blah blah. Now I find out that hes been talking to this girl online who I actually know kind of but she lives like 5 hours away from us. Hes been flirting with this girl and making plans to see her and talking on the phone and such...I know this is a rebound girl and its long distance...but do you think its serious? I'm aching over hearing about this and I really don't know what to think right now. He and I agreed to be just friends but he says he needs his space because theres negativity attached to me. And I read online on several different sites that if hes still angry at me about the break up then its a good thing because then I really hurt him. And I read that if he starts dating another girl really soon after the break up then hes just shoving his feelings of me aside so he wont have to deal with it, and that its probably nothing more then a rebound and that those never work out for more then 6 weeks. And this girl is actually not very attractive at all. I know people say that out of jealousy BUT Im not even joking! Shes pretty overweight (which my ex is kind of shallow when it comes to that) and she has short hair (which my ex doesnt like he loooooves long hair) its soooo opposite of what he likes. And this girl is weird...I used to know her and she tried stealing one of my ex boyfriends from me before. Hate the bitch really.... I just donno what to do...or what to think... Please let me know what you think! Im so stumped.
cb9343 Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 sounds like you already know i would just play hard to get but accidently run into him from time to time make sure you loook good!.. I think NC is the best and that is what i am learning... you can't push maybe he is afraid of getting rejected again...
Author Torime89 Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 Well my exes best friend (who is also a really good friend of mine) and I are taking him out for his birthday this weekend...I already planned on looking good for him and maybe other cute guys that are there lol.
Author Torime89 Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 OMG! I just remembered that on our first year of going out we took a break from each other because things were stressful and I wanted the break not him. And we made a deal NOT to date anyone else.While on the break he was hanging out with this girl who was pretty ugly also...she looked like a man pretty much. Anyways they went on a couple of dates (jerk!)..he said he did not do anything with her and that all they did was hold hands and hang out. And they talked online all night and flirted massively. But I started to miss him and after like 4 or 5 days of being on the break we ended up together again... This girl now can simply be a temporary thing to make him feel better untill Im back...even though he says we shouldnt get back together...BUT I know for sure hes hurting still. Bah just thinking out loud.
Author Torime89 Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 no body wants to say something???
Billie The Puppet Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 If you are no longer together he is allowed to move on, timelines will always be somewhat unsettling some times it's a rebound other times they may actually find something in the other. Some guys treat it like a competition and want to beat their exes to the punch.
durkadurka Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 If you are no longer together he is allowed to move on, timelines will always be somewhat unsettling some times it's a rebound other times they may actually find something in the other. Some guys treat it like a competition and want to beat their exes to the punch. Same thing can be said for women. The thing is, if you try and look into it too much you'll go insane and you just become really unappealing.
primer Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 In his mind the relationship ended long before you actually broke up. He was ready to move on. It's not a rebound. Looks aren't everything. This new girl could be more independent than you were. Perhaps this new girl is more stable than you. Maybe she is more outgoing than you or has a better sense of humor. She could have less baggage. There are many things more important than looks.
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