anna100 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I've done everything right this time. NC... been polite when it ended... Haven't begged him back/ been mean etc... We ended things for good enough reasons. Neither of us cheated or did anything to truely hurt the other. we just wanted different things. I wanted things to end but when it came down to it I panicked and always thought it was worth giving it another go but he thought it was better for us to be apart. I just really miss him SOOOOO much. I'm focussing on the bad things and trying to think of other things when he pops into my head. I know it would be stupid to go and be his friend as it hasn't been 2 months yet and I guess I haven't really forgiven him for not really trying to make things work. I just don't know what to do anymore: I am busy all the time, i've joined new classes, doing a lot of new things, I have made so many lovely new friends in the past two months but NOTHING is really making me feel any differently towards him/the whole situation. I feel really down all the time. Is there anything I can do apart from just give it time... what happens if I still feel like this about him in years? I don't want that!!! I want him to get out of my head!!!
dragonwave Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I think you just need to be. We all want a magic wand to make all the unbearable feelings of loss, missing the other, emptiness, sorrow etc to be gone like magic. But it does not work that way. You have to go "throught it" to get to other side. That means experincing all the gambit of emotions. Not fun...but necessary. You are doing the right things by keeping busy and making new friends etc...just make sure your "buziness" is not replacing/avoiding what you need to deal with. Distraction(s) have their place but not at the cost of not dealing with your feelings. Its only been two months....cut your self some slack....just let things be and let yourself feel what you feel. No sense in fighting it.
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