Kain Highwind Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Ok, I've been friends with this girl for like a year. I have a crush on her and I think she may like me. (I posted another topic about her) We went to the fair Saturday night and both of us had a lot of fun. Went on rides, shared funnel cake, saw a concert, blah blah. Anyway, she drove me home and when we were hugging, like we normally do, I kissed her on the cheek. She looked normally surprised and she was like feeling her cheek but we didn't say anything abou tit. We hung out again yesterday (went to see a play and then I went to go help her with her homework at her house) and neither of us brought it up. We hug like every single time we're done hanging out but this was the first time I kissed.
TouchedByViolet Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Looks like she is interested in you, she didn't run away or smack you in the face How old are you? If you like her as much as it sounds go for the lips next time. And if its you're first time, just go slow and steady. It will be awesome!
USMCHokie Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 If a guy kisses a girl on the cheek, (1) he's not romantically interested in her, OR (2) he doesn't have the balls to kiss her on the lips.
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Looks like she is interested in you, she didn't run away or smack you in the face How old are you? If you like her as much as it sounds go for the lips next time. And if its you're first time, just go slow and steady. It will be awesome! 20 (College is different than high school lol. Had no problems then but now I can barely do anything >_>)
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 If a guy kisses a girl on the cheek, (1) he's not romantically interested in her, OR (2) he doesn't have the balls to kiss her on the lips. Would have done something else but my plans basically went badly Wanted to make a move, like holding hands at the fair but there were just too many people and we were barely able to keep from getting separated Since that didn't work, as cliche and corny as it is, I wanted to try the ferris wheel but there was a couple right across from us Wanted to go for a better kind of kiss but our phones (Both) started ringing right when I started hugging so I had to improvise lol
USMCHokie Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Would have done something else but my plans basically went badly Wanted to make a move, like holding hands at the fair but there were just too many people and we were barely able to keep from getting separated Since that didn't work, as cliche and corny as it is, I wanted to try the ferris wheel but there was a couple right across from us Wanted to go for a better kind of kiss but our phones (Both) started ringing right when I started hugging so I had to improvise lol Here's a general word of advice: plans always go to sh*t...so you have to be ready to make changes and improvise...and experience will help you with that... And it seems like you were trying to create the "perfect" first kiss...I know you have great intentions and want to make it a memorable one, but keep in mind that to her, it will be the perfect first kiss because it was with you...and she'll always remember it, no matter how lame or awesome the setting was... But that's assuming that she likes you...heheh...
Lakeside_runner Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 If a guy kisses a girl on the cheek, (1) he's not romantically interested in her, OR (2) he doesn't have the balls to kiss her on the lips. OR (3) he dosen't know her yet and wants to indicate his interest in being more than friends. Mind - (3) does not apply here...
loverofloveandstuff Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 OR (3) he dosen't know her yet and wants to indicate his interest in being more than friends. Mind - (3) does not apply here... Huh? Nearly all of my guy friends greet me with a kiss on the cheek. And most of my girl friends greet me the same way or atleast with a hug. so (4) To greet a friend. Since you don't usually kiss her on the cheek, she probably takes it as a sign that you're interested in her. Time to take it a step further.
Lakeside_runner Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Huh? Nearly all of my guy friends greet me with a kiss on the cheek. And most of my girl friends greet me the same way or atleast with a hug. so (4) To greet a friend. Since you don't usually kiss her on the cheek, she probably takes it as a sign that you're interested in her. Time to take it a step further. I was referring to a situation where two people just met and both were aware of the fact that it was a date...
spiderowl Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 What would it mean if a guy kissed me on the cheek? I guess it would depend on the context. If it was my birthday and he was a friend, he'd be demonstrating affection for a friend. If we'd been on a date and he'd been friendly but a bit distant, I'd think it meant that he liked me but as a friend, no more. If he'd been hanging out with me all day and clearly enjoying himself and it was a spontaneous gesture, I would think it was affectionate and that he wanted to be close (esp. if he'd been hugging too). A guy who wants to be just a friend is unlikely to feel drawn to do that or to spend that amount of time with me. That's my feeling anyway. I think the fact that she looked at you and obviously thought about what you'd done meant she'd noticed that this was maybe a little more than affection. If she continues to hang out with you and relaxes and is happy, then I think it would be a fair bet that she's growing more attached to you too and that this could be a developing romance. Good luck!
Lakeside_runner Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 OK. I am officially sick of guys here who are like "KISS HER". Yes - it is a good idea if you know here somehow, she's your friend and you want something more. It is a good idea if you meet a girl with the intention of dating her, go on a date (both of you are aware that it's a date). No - it is not a good idea to kiss her on the lips if you just met her and talked to her for an hour. I know that this is a ridiculous scenario but some of you guys just sounds like that. Whatever you do - "Go, kiss her! Chicks dig it when blokes kiss them!" That just borders on assault. Seriously? Anybody done that? I don't think so... That been said: If you want her to think that you are romantically interested in her and want her to be sure of your intentions - go for a real kiss on the lips. What's the worst thing that can happen? Well, the world is not gonna end if it doesn't go well. You could win a lot. There is however always the possibility that she's not seeing you as a potential boyfriend and this could make the friendship awkward...
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 brothers and sisters kiss on the cheek True, but I've hung out with her a ton of times and this is the first time I've kissed her at all
GooseChaser Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Another safer place to kiss a girl is on her forehead.
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 you can do it Even if I could have done a better kiss, this is still a kiss regardless, right? Its better than not kissing at all, right?
denise_xo Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Even if I could have done a better kiss, this is still a kiss regardless, right? Its better than not kissing at all, right? Right These things are so context dependent, but I think a kiss on the cheek can be very sensual, especially in a situation where two people are mutually attracted but treading lightly because they're not sure of reciprocity. It's like, you're dying to get that real kiss but you get one on the cheek instead and you're left wondering whether you will ever experience the real thing or whether you will have to be satisfied with a sweet little memory of a soft lips gently touching your skin...
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 Right These things are so context dependent, but I think a kiss on the cheek can be very sensual, especially in a situation where two people are mutually attracted but treading lightly because they're not sure of reciprocity. It's like, you're dying to get that real kiss but you get one on the cheek instead and you're left wondering whether you will ever experience the real thing or whether you will have to be satisfied with a sweet little memory of a soft lips gently touching your skin... Yeah, and she was comfortable enough to tell me where she lived after I did it so it probably didn't bother her, right? And I seriously thinks he's into me (She's doing alot for me, like for my birthday, she started painting me a painting. She had it completely finished but decided to start completely over and even get her art teacher to help her because it apparently wasn't good enough), so if she is, she probably enjoyed that regardless, right?
denise_xo Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Yeah, and she was comfortable enough to tell me where she lived after I did it so it probably didn't bother her, right? And I seriously thinks he's into me (She's doing alot for me, like for my birthday, she started painting me a painting. She had it completely finished but decided to start completely over and even get her art teacher to help her because it apparently wasn't good enough), so if she is, she probably enjoyed that regardless, right? Right. Listen KH, if she's making you multiple paintings for your birthday I think you can safely assume that you're not bothering her... in fact maybe you should go hang out with her some more rather than spending time on LS worrying about the kiss on the cheek Like LoveAintEverything said, do it again and see what happens...
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 Right. Listen KH, if she's making you multiple paintings for your birthday I think you can safely assume that you're not bothering her... in fact maybe you should go hang out with her some more rather than spending time on LS worrying about the kiss on the cheek Like LoveAintEverything said, do it again and see what happens... My birthday was nearly a month ago and she's still working on it I can't decide if asking to hang out this coming weekend is too soon. I mean, we hung out btoh days of last weekend and I can't decide if that'd be too fast or whatever lol
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 And I just thought of something... She's been working on the painting for like two months. I haven't seen it at all. Is it possible that she really doesn't care and is only doing it when she has nothing else to do? Like... She isn't doing **** and she's just hoping I'll forget? Or am I being too paranoid?
runner Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 kissing on the cheek can be fun so i'm not against it. when i've had an awesome first date, sometimes i'll go in for the big warm hug; but before pulling away completely, i'll slowly brush my face against hers and plant a soft lingering kiss on her cheek, and then back off a bit. more often than not i look into her eyes and she's basically glowing and wanting more of that - then i go for it OP, its all about delivery. do it right and it means the world.
Ruby Slippers Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I'm not a fan. It's tentative, testing, not confident. Why not just kiss her on the mouth? Go for it!!
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 22, 2010 Author Posted September 22, 2010 kissing on the cheek can be fun so i'm not against it. when i've had an awesome first date, sometimes i'll go in for the big warm hug; but before pulling away completely, i'll slowly brush my face against hers and plant a soft lingering kiss on her cheek, and then back off a bit. more often than not i look into her eyes and she's basically glowing and wanting more of that - then i go for it OP, its all about delivery. do it right and it means the world. So... If she hung out with me the next day, it probably meant alot to her?
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