juliette72 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 hey all W and OM's out there... lets just take off our rose coloured glasses for one minute and think about one simple thing. If your MM/ MW partner reallly cared about you and loved you he/she would shift mountains to make that happen. Most of us I suspect are being strung along by very. selfish. people who take more than they ever can give. I have only just realised this after spending 7 long years believing that MM truly loved me and lapping up all his carefully rehearsed move lines designed to reel me back in again. It worked. And now I hope it is not too late to reconstruct my life after he has damn near destroyed it. I destroyed other perfectly fine relationships of my own because of guilt and also becuase I felt in some way faithful to this very selfish, hopless man-child who can't get his own life together. He has made 3 people miserable (me, his wife and their child) just as a sacrifice for his own needs, which are a bottomless pit never to be filled. I finished with MM last week and I don't doubt he will immediately find some other unsuspectng woman to fill this vacancy... after he takes his wedding ring off and starts LYING to them too. I am so angry, but at least I feeel something but I have felt nothing but trapped and numb and self hating for the last years... at last I have woken up. Of course he had nothing to say when I finished it, because he is PATHETIC....... To anyone reading here who is contemplating an affair.... SIMPLY DON'T DO IT> It ultimately leads to misery for all involved. Best of luckk everyone with your respective situations.
donnamaybe Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Juliette, I hope you are now in a good place emotionally. It might be tough for awhile, but you will come out of this stronger. It's already apparent you've come out of it wiser. Good luck, and enjoy LIVING YOUR LIFE!
Silly_Girl Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 What a poignant post. I hope you feel every day is better than the last for you. I wish you lots of happiness. I hope this new freedom from the Prison serves you well Juliette.
2sure Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 [QUOTE=juliette72;3007099] I am so angry, but at least I feeel something but I have felt nothing but trapped and numb and self hating for the last years... at last I have woken up. Hey, you made a mistake. You have realized this and are changing your life. Our mistakes make up who we are and can be just as important as our accomplishments . Life is all about lessons. You are no longer trapped, you are feeling things in a realistic way with no blinders on . No need to hate yourself, or even him, it just doesnt serve anything. Made me sad to read that you feel that way. Been there. Keep facing the right direction, it will pass.
Author juliette72 Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Thanks Donnamaybe, sillygirl and 2 sure... you are right each in different ways. Its all about learning and moving on, right? At the moment I feel a mixture of sad and angry but I think that will pass as I feel the potential to be genuinely happy again. Good luck to you all:rolleyes:
Mimolicious Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Juliette, you will find your Romeo. Count your blessings that you didn't spend 30yrs with the sham of your xMM. Good luck in your recovery journey and keep the faith.
Author juliette72 Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Thanka mimolicious, a good perspective there. And killer heels btw!
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