cb9343 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 my boyfriend broke up with me which is the third time in 2 years.. he is 32 and going to boot camp in one month.. when we are together life is amzing.. i started to get insecure about him leaving and had a rough week it was thr first weekend he went to base. i just was being a pain about where we were going. i admit i was wrong. but whenever i have a bad moment like this he breaks up with me last time we did not takl for 2 motnhs but it was better when we got back together. he is a recovering cocaine addict but i did not know him him those days. His dad killed himsel when he was ten and i just think he has no copping skills at all.. this hurts though each time and i feel a wreck right now.. i am not going to chase him but i just dont get it.. i know when he gets scared he freaks out he was not himself all week but i have a son and it hrts to the point i cant get to work right now and i am staying with my parents. they know how much we love eachother.. mom thinks its the only way he knows how to react is to run.. what should i do? i know it sounds bad but i still hope one day that we could work it out or love is one of a kind but maybe the 5 months at boot camp will help.. i adore him and he said he loves me but just can't handle me right now.. help me please??
Leandro Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Yea don't chase him. Just give him his space. Let him miss you. Maybe the boot camp will wake him up.
Author cb9343 Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Everyone thinks he just is scared about leaving for so long.. I just really hope and thought he was the one. i guess i am in the memory stage and depression stage.. I want to get the strong stage where i know i will be ok no matter what.. right now its just hard to sleep for a couple of hours.. time will heal i hope..
Leandro Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Yea we've all gone through it. Time WILL heal!
charliecharlie Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Leandro is right in my opinion. Let things be for a while. Focus on yourself. After all, you were in a relationship with a guy that is obviously dealing with serious issues and runs every time it gets "scary", so maybe you need some healing time of your own. Use it to your advantage. Think about what you want and when he gets back from bootcamp and there's still enough love between the two of you, you can sit down and talk about what's going on between the two of you. He obviously needs his space and pressure will only make him run away forever.
Author cb9343 Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Leandro is right in my opinion. Let things be for a while. Focus on yourself. After all, you were in a relationship with a guy that is obviously dealing with serious issues and runs every time it gets "scary", so maybe you need some healing time of your own. Use it to your advantage. Think about what you want and when he gets back from bootcamp and there's still enough love between the two of you, you can sit down and talk about what's going on between the two of you. He obviously needs his space and pressure will only make him run away forever. i have not made any contact i did send him letter apologizing for my neediness and told him he always has our support. I told him we were praying for him... i sent him a letter so he would not reply i need to get out of the stage i am in i have a son but it is just so hard.. all i want to do is cry and keep thinking about our amazing times... everyone is completely suprised by this casue they see us together and we adore eachother.. just hard to breathe right now:lmao:
Leandro Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Go ahead and cry. Let it all out. You'll feel a little better. One day you'll be able to look back at the good times, smile and move on with your life. It just takes time. One day at a time.
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