Stephie Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Ok so I have been so hurt for so long since he left, neither one of us has changed or passwords on yahoo or fb... I decided months ago to never log into his yahoo, well Saturday I did and I thought to myself the person I had spent the last 2 yrs of my life with doesn't even exsist anymore... Or am I overeacting, this is what I found. Personals on craigslist wanting nothing but sex. His emails back and forth were to women saying he didn't have time for a relationship just sex and he needed it now. One was to someone saying he had just gotten out of a LTR and was tired of being pressured into relationships. HA he pushed me into getting serious fast. Also his add included everything about our relationship that's just so wrong. He is a very good looking guy, tall, great build, pretty face why is he soliciting sex on craigslist is he really that f' up now? I know I shouldn't be reading his messages, its just so tempting!
ohno89 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Nothing you can find out about your ex once you break up is good for you. Ever. Unless they get fat and ugly and lonely. And even then.... you probably won't feel as great as you might think! Honestly, quit while you're ahead. You've done it now, try and just take pleasure in knowing that there's something a little wrong with this guy...sex addict, creep, whatever. He is not who he was when he was with you. He will get bored of what he's doing, trust me. Live your life and concentrate on you.
The-Zen-Warrior Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Personally, and this is just my opinion, if I were you, I would try to stay away from your "ex's" on-line accounts. I wouldn't access his Facebook account nor his Yahoo e-mail account, just leave it alone! I feel that when one does as you did, that just adds another "string attached" and keeps the memory of a time gone by alive. If this relationship is truly over, and you just want to walk away from it, do yourself the favor, don't go back, even if it is just being curious and spy on your ex's on-line accounts. Also this same scenario can be played out in "reverse", in regards to your on-line accounts, did your ex once upon a time have access to those? Does your ex currently have your password to your e-mail and Facebook accounts? Because what's good for the goose is good for the gander, the ex can do this to! If you haven't changed your passwords and they are the same as when your ex was with you, and the ex had access, I would think about changing them now! Just move on, try to forget what you saw on your ex's e-mail account! You can not help who he truly is, or what he has truly tuned into in regards to that "craigs list" stuff. In order for you to truly move one and get on with your life and to be able to put all this behind you, you can not do this sort of thing again, again it just adds another "string attached" and will make things that much harder for you to get over and move on from. Forum member ohno89 gave a good post, I think I would try to absorb as much of it as you can!
ShannonMI Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Ok so I have been so hurt for so long since he left, neither one of us has changed or passwords on yahoo or fb... I decided months ago to never log into his yahoo, well Saturday I did and I thought to myself the person I had spent the last 2 yrs of my life with doesn't even exsist anymore... Or am I overeacting, this is what I found. Personals on craigslist wanting nothing but sex. His emails back and forth were to women saying he didn't have time for a relationship just sex and he needed it now. One was to someone saying he had just gotten out of a LTR and was tired of being pressured into relationships. HA he pushed me into getting serious fast. Also his add included everything about our relationship that's just so wrong. He is a very good looking guy, tall, great build, pretty face why is he soliciting sex on craigslist is he really that f' up now? I know I shouldn't be reading his messages, its just so tempting! Reading his emails probably isn't a good idea. Actually, it's a really bad idea, but you've already done it so whatever. Take what you read and realize what a slimeball your ex is and be thankful you are rid of him. He must be completely DESPERATE to be seaching out sex on Craigslist. How gross. Thank God you aren't with him anymore. Go out there and find a good guy!
dragonwave Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Agree with all the posters. Reading his emails is not healthy for you. BUT, take what you need from your discovery which is that he is missing a few screws and definately not the person you were with and/or thought you were with. Keep that "disgusted" feeling fueling to move on and seeing your break up as a blessing in disguise. Finding out what you did has served you to see his current light, perhaps true nature.
Thorgs Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 You need to stay off of his stuff otherwise you can never heal! But, it would be great if you sent him a reply to his Craigslist ad and sent him fake photos and then met up and it ended up being you Srsly though, just get off his stuff and start to heal. We can't control what other people do, just hope for the best.
PegNosePete Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Change his password to something you'll never remember.
Author Stephie Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 @ Thorgs that would be great, too bad I live 4 hrs away from him now but I would totally do that... Everyone else I agree I need to stay off and was so good about doing that, but it was almost a better thing to discover just what kind of person he has turned into makes the healing process easier. I thought to myself and I was going to marry this man who is this man? My heart hurts for him I pray everynight for him. He really does have a good heart but I think he broke a part of it when he quit us. I got a text from him 1:30 this morning first time in 20 days and I refuse to respond. This time I will not break nc haha sadly it took 6 months but I'm staying strong.
Margot Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Ok so I have been so hurt for so long since he left, neither one of us has changed or passwords on yahoo or fb... I decided months ago to never log into his yahoo, well Saturday I did and I thought to myself the person I had spent the last 2 yrs of my life with doesn't even exsist anymore... Or am I overeacting, this is what I found. Personals on craigslist wanting nothing but sex. His emails back and forth were to women saying he didn't have time for a relationship just sex and he needed it now. One was to someone saying he had just gotten out of a LTR and was tired of being pressured into relationships. HA he pushed me into getting serious fast. Also his add included everything about our relationship that's just so wrong. He is a very good looking guy, tall, great build, pretty face why is he soliciting sex on craigslist is he really that f' up now? I know I shouldn't be reading his messages, its just so tempting! Been there done that! When my ex-bf broke up with me 4 months ago (after 6 years) I was devastated. I knew his password for his e-mail and FB too, and for a couple of weeks after the break up I logged in many times a day. Sometimes there was nothing suspicious but then I found a dirty message with one of his co-workers (and the date was when we were still together). I felt really bad, one because I think he cheated on me, two because I have become someone that I don't even know when I log to his stuff. I decided not to do that and just heal and go NC. He has broken his NC because he sends me e-mails every week but I just ignored them. But the something hits me and then after a month I log to his stuff again, and see him hanging with this girl. That makes me sad and think that he used me, treated me bad. Well I just think that I have to stop...For God sakes I'm 28 years old and sometimes I think that I acted very immature and silly. But hey you are alone in this is just that we have to have will power to make us stop of doing this stuff. Every time that I'm tempted I just say to myself he is not worth your tears, suffering, and reminded to myself how knowing things about him make me feel like crap.
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