TVguy Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Well....I don't post on here very much but I have been reading a lot over the past few motnhs....hoping to get some advice and insight into my own situation. I am a MM and have been having an affair with a MW for almost three years. We live about an hour apart and talk pretty much every day....sometimes for hours. I would not even want to guess how many hours we spent on the phone. We saw each other at least once a week on average...sometimes more and sometimes it would be two or three weeks. We both weren't the happiest at home but nothing really horrible....we just seem to hit it off right away and both got carried away and it really felt like love at first sight. We talked endlessly about leaving our spouses and starting over together. I was definitely more leaning that way than she was. She is a bit older than me and a little further down the road to no kids at home and all that goes with that. We both have children at home. There would be issues with the distance and her work would know right away that this had been going on for years. Over the past few months we have really been talking about making the decision and I had been pushing more than normal. On Friday she decided that she just couldn't make that choice to leave. She said that she loves me still but that she just couldn't hang on to it any longer and couldn't function day to day anymore. I knew it was coming but I guess I also hoped that she would choose me instead. Now I just need to cope with the loss and try to move on. Today is the first Monday in years that we haven't talked in the morning and talked about each others weekend....and it is driving me a bit crazy. I thought about her all weekend and it is taking everything I have to not call her or email her. I think the only thing I can do is let her be and if she made the wrong choice then she will contact me. I guess I just have to hold on and ride out the pain....any advice would be welcomed.
Ajax Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Hate to burst your bubble, but half of the people in this forum are hurt because they've been cheated on, and we try to help them rebuild their self esteam and move forward. Helping the cheaters cope isn't really what we do here.
PegNosePete Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 You might have a warmer reception and better responses in the "Other man/woman" forum
The-Zen-Warrior Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I find this topic or thread if you will to be very disturbing! I'm not going to interject to much here, for forum member Ajax kind of summed it all up very nicely. But TVGuy what about your wife? Does she have any feelings in regard to your infidelity? Have you even talked to your wife, or have you just been blowing all your verbal energy on the "other woman" and don't have enough energy left for your wife! You can take this how you will! I'm 100% glad I'm not in your shoes! For if I had to live this sort of "double life" and juggle an affair and a marriage, I would need to be committed to a mental hospital for a nervous breakdown! Plus I would rather take my micro katana out and slice into my guts and commit "Seppuku", for I would have brought "dishonor" to my house! All I'm hearing here is me, me, me, me, what about your wife, your wife, your wife? Think about it................
ohno89 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I find this topic or thread if you will to be very disturbing! Agreed andddddd.... Hate to burst your bubble, but half of the people in this forum are hurt because they've been cheated on, and we try to help them rebuild their self esteam and move forward. Helping the cheaters cope isn't really what we do here. ...agreed! It's like you're trying to bargain with the other side posting that on the 'Coping' forum
Author TVguy Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 Sorry...didn't realize...obviously the wrong forum.
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