mathat Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I'm just experiencing my first serious relationship (1.3 years) and my first breakup. We were really close and spoke to each other everyday, and she lived with me for a few months. We rarely fought, sex was good, but conversation was lacking. I love/d her and she love/d me and we are both taking lots of strain during the breakup. We're breaking up primarily cos of distance (we live in different continents), and this only became an issue, I guess, cos the relationship had reached some form of maturity (because we've done this distance for way longer periods than 3 wks and got through it). I wouldn't go visit her, and we know we are both young, so may as well "take a break" until our circumstances are possibly more appropriate for **moving continents** and finished our studies. So was def a circumstantial break up. But I don't think I could have "popped the question" until a) I was older and in a more secure position b) I am fundamentally unsure, because conversation is a bit on the lacking side. There was some big issues which I would like to have explore to see if I can find with other ppl before making a serious commitment. So, in essence, this is a blessing. And I guess, the next step is to go out and explore and find someone new. But I'm pretty busy with life so don't have time now - because I feel like it's stress and not relief (I'm heavily introverted - she was more so, which was blessing and disguise - easy match, but I feel like I need someone to balance out my introversion). Maybe if I take a new approach and go out strictly to have fun. With no hidden motives, then I can go out and enjoy myself even though I'm busy? You know, just go out to have fun and meet ppl. If I'm not having fun, go somewhere else. And not loads of going out, just a bit to keep my life interesting. Yes, this is what I should probably do. The reason I ask, is because it's a bit difficult now, and I know if I found someone else, it would make the forgetting that much easier. I've heard other people give advice that it's best to get out there ASAP. Also, I really don't want her to find someone before me! That would infuriate me. Anyway, should I look for someone after only a week of being broken up? What approach should I take? Where's a good place to meet like-minded introverts?
brainblox Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 That's tough, I honestly think you should always wait before rushing into a new relationship, this gives you time to digest and get your strength back and get back to yourself. Dating is not the same as a full blown relationship so if you feel like going on a few light dates then why not ? You should post this in the breakup threads you will get more opinions.
Yo quiero Taco Bell Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 take a break, eat some tacos, 7-layer burrito, then go out and chase a new Chimichanga! Sabroso niñas tienden a ser crujiente por fuera, por lo que morder fuerte y profundo!
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