SarahC Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 When my ex asked for a divorce, i 'blogged' about it... Here is my experience with going through separation and a divorce. http://sarahsdivorcediary.blogspot.com
The-Zen-Warrior Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Wow, in all of my 2 years on the divorce scene, I have never heard of a person "blogging" about a separation, or a divorce! I find this interesting that you would pick this sort of "vehicle" to chart your feelings and report on the "up to dates" of the situation. I don't think that a "blog" would be my first pick as towards keeping some sort of a "diary"! I have one, but being 40 years old I'm kind of old fashioned if you will. I currently practice the same thing in regards to my diary or as I like to call it a journal, that I did when I was a child. I rather use the old fashioned "pencil" and "paper" and "journal book", which I keep hidden under my mattress. Don't know if I would feel to comfortable putting my journal up on the Internet as a blog. Oh well if this works for you, more power to you, but it would not work for me......"to public"!
habs53 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Those pics must have been hard to post. Its so sad people have to go through this.
Author SarahC Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Zen warrior. I've been a blogger for years. I had written diaries while i was with him, all the horrible things he use to say or do, and (i know it sounds stupid) but i use to cry when writing and half the pages are smudged and i couldn't read them. A blog IS a journal and i wanted to put it out there so others who are in the same situation can relate to all those negative thoughts and feelings you go through. I was utterly devastated and trailed the internet and forums trying to find someone who understood, much like this forum where people post about all aspects of their relationships, no different at all. If ONE person read my blog and found it helpful, then i am happy.
Author SarahC Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Habs. Those pictures are still hard to look at. I was SO happy, although he'd already been really abusive to me. I didn't care, because i loved him so much. Saying that, the man that divorced me, was nothing like the man i married. He just got more and more nasty, verbally/physically and mentally abusive by the day. Looking back, marrying him was a bit silly, when his abusive behaviour had already started shining though
heartbrokensj Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 When my ex asked for a divorce, i 'blogged' about it... Here is my experience with going through separation and a divorce. http://sarahsdivorcediary.blogspot.com Sarah, I commend your honesty to post a blog about such a personal issue and I commend you even more for posting pictures...A lot of times when people think try to picture what abuse looks like..it certainly does not look like your wedding pics...You two look so picture perfect ..I never would have guessed just from looking at those pics, but then again I don't assume anything about anyone's life or marriage because what goes on behind closed doors...is just that. Thanks for sharing...I hope blogging has helped you heal both emotional, and spiritually.
The-Zen-Warrior Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 SarahC : I have to agree with you one one thing, that is about trying to read blurry or smeared pages in a journal, especially after one is crying while writing! I have to be honest here and say that I have many a pages in my journal where you could tell tears were involved, lots of smeary pages there! I'm glad you have found a vehicle of expression, I'm glad to see that you want your life's story, mainly about the marriage and then divorce, to help other people, that is very noble. I never really got into "blogging", I have dabbled here and there, but just couldn't sink my teeth into it, as I do with forums. Keep it up, I think you might be on to something for yourself! I might have to re-visit your blog and read more, as to get to know your situation better.
habs53 Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Habs. Those pictures are still hard to look at. I was SO happy, although he'd already been really abusive to me. I didn't care, because i loved him so much. Saying that, the man that divorced me, was nothing like the man i married. He just got more and more nasty, verbally/physically and mentally abusive by the day. Looking back, marrying him was a bit silly, when his abusive behaviour had already started shining though I can relate to all that, my ex is nastier by the day as well. Must be a defense thing or maybe quilt thing. I still find wedding pictures and all kinds of stuff she left for me to ponder over.
Author SarahC Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 Heartbroken... You just can never tell. I look at those pictures and YES i was so happy, i was a typical abused partner, i hoped and prayed everyday it would stop and if i did as he said, did as i was told, he would love me, love me as much as i loved him. Fast forward to 6 years together and although deep down i STILL loved him, there was an awful lot of hate for what he put me through, if that makes sense.
Author SarahC Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 Habs. Guilt didn't even come into his dictionary. He didn't "DO" guilt. He couldn't have cared less.
heartbrokensj Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Heartbroken... Fast forward to 6 years together and although deep down i STILL loved him, there was an awful lot of hate for what he put me through, if that makes sense. I understand what you mean how you can still love and hate him at the same time...I was not in an physically abusive relationship with my STBXH but I can so relate to loving and hating your significant other at the same time. I think most of us on here have and still feel that way about your significant others (pre/post divorced)
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