reknown29 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I was recently dumped and have been having a very difficult time coping. My heart is torn and my self esteem severely bruised.The break up is complicated in itself but the main dilemma I am having now is whether or not I should go to Italy without the girl. We had booked a trip together and the tickets are non changeable, non refundable. She has made it very clear that she is not going. This is confusing in itself because she constantly texts and tells me how much she cares about me, how much she thinks about me. If our trip is brought up though she gets extremely angry and says that she is def not going. She even went as far as booking another trip during the dates of the departure. So shes not going... I have never been to Italy and really want to go but Im not sure I can handle the loneliness that will overcome me when I am there. I had high hopes of enjoying my time with this person while we explored a country niether one of us has ever been to. Would it be a bad idea to go? I really dont think i can handle the fact that she didnt go with me while Im there. But maybe this will help in the recovery? Im very confused as to what to do. If anyone has any input or experience with this, please let me know. I cant believe she did this to me and is still contacting me all the time. We are still sleeping together... Shes losing money on the trip as well. Im so confused.
Sweet_Tea Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I think the fact that you are still sleeping together complicates your situation even more. She says she doesn't want to go with you, was the one to break up with you and is still sleeping with you and contacting you all the time? That's giving you mixed signals. I think you should go. Once you're there and surrounded by new people, places and experiences you'll be distracted. I think even if you stay you will feel lonely, even with your friends and family around you. Explore, discover, experience new things, do it for yourself! I think time apart will help you heal too... Best of luck and I hope you do go. It seems like an amazing opportunity.
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