Amira4210 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 So I was thinking the other day of how much I have changed over the past several, even, couple of years. I am almost 25 now and have been noticing how much I have changed, mentally and emotionally as a person from the time I was 18 to 20ish, and even (the most change) from like 20 to 24. My likes and dislikes are different, turn-on and turn-offs have extremly changed, even what turns me on, physically, in a relationship. For example, at 18 I loved bad boys who smoked ciggarettes and played rough with me and had an attitude. Now, a man with class, humility and a strong work ethic is so sexy to me. Of course this is expected, but I want to know how many of you conciously notice the same? If you are older and have been married for some time, how has your perception of marriage and family and relationships changed as you aged. What was important to you at my age and apposed to what really matters to you now? Some of the main reason I am in my current relationships include knowing that this man is good for me NOW and in TEN YEARS (from what I can tell). I know that now I want to enjoy life and have fun and work on my career but in ten yrs I know I will be aiming at a stable family life, and I feel like he compliments me in both stages. Does anyone think this way, or am I just thinking too much lol?
witabix Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Hopefully we all go through this maturation. I am twice your age and I still see the differences as the decades pass. Your view now is becoming more focussed on what will bring you stability, because presumably you value that in your future. I think this is common, not universal by any means, I know people my age who still have no idea what they want from life. As for thinking too much, well I have never thought that people can actually think too much, its usually a sign of being well balanced and enables you to know what you want and helps you get it.
Not the love ace Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Hey Amira, hows everything going by the way? As for me, my taste are still generally the same (since 19 at least) I'm 24 now. I've always liked girls who can party, have fun and like to have lots of sex but aren't clingy and can be independent but we can still have a solid and tight connection and relationship. Girls who are a little nerdy on the inside and can appreciate the smallers things in life like walking through the park, going on swings and seeing leaf foliage at the mountain tops, watch some shows and play video games. I guess I'm still "girl crazy" and find it possible for me to be in love with multiple women. I honestly don't see this anytime soon if ever, its just the way I am. When I was young I always had this feeling but I was conforming to what was normal and felt like I had to be with just one person and find only one companion who I have to love and spend the rest of my life with and that's all. As I got older, I started to really let loose of my inhibitions and in the love/romantic sense I started to become proud of what I like and wanted and I'm happy. I don't like being too exclusive and having arguments and fights over petty things. I'm so over it. In the future I could see myself with two or maybe several ladies and I don't think I'll be married.
Cee Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I'm 40 and often I feel like I'm 25. So little has changed over the years in terms of my basic personality, but I am so much calmer. I never fly into a rage about anything and my anxiety is much better. At 20, I used to worry about death a lot. Now that I'm closer to death, I worry less, but my concerns are more specific (mammograms, damage to my lungs from smoking). I am also economically independent. That took a long time b/c I was unstable in my career and going to grad school. I love that my life is all my own & I am thinking about saving for retirement. I'm thinking of buying my own home as a single woman. Ten years ago I never thought I could buy a home without a spouse. As for my dreams, they are more concrete and less idealistic. I don't care about living the perfect life. I just want to live and be healthy.
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